I'm my original post, when I was thinking of stability - I was thinking of longevity yes, but not an unhappy partnership that stays together just for the sake of "till death do you part". I'm my own experience, the main thing that wasn't working for us was monogamy - the rest was pretty awesome. Hence, the move to polyamory, instead of chucking the whole relationship in the trash. But I do see what some have said here about adding more partners to the mix can add chaos and drama which could be potentially de-stabilizing. I guess all we can hope for is to share love with each person for as long as that relationship makes us happier better versions of ourselves.
Polyamory more or less stable than monogamy?
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I'm my original post, when I was thinking of stability - I was thinking of longevity yes, but not an unhappy partnership that stays together just for the sake of "till death do you part". I'm my own experience, the main thing that wasn't working for us was monogamy - the rest was pretty awesome. Hence, the move to polyamory, instead of chucking the whole relationship in the trash. But I do see what some have said here about adding more partners to the mix can add chaos and drama which could be potentially de-stabilizing. I guess all we can hope for is to share love with each person for as long as that relationship makes us happier better versions of ourselves.
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Couple mistakes longevity for quality
Just read the entire thread. These kinds of discussions always make me think of of my favorite Onion story of all time: couple mistakes longevity for quality. "Those close to the Rafterys are also said to have mistakenly referred to their paralyzing fear of being alone as “true love.”" ha hahah ahaha makes me laugh every time I hear it! I've so been there!
Each of us has our own definition of "success". In some cases that's "stability" (whatever that means), longevity, etc. For me, it's that a relationship satisfies the needs of the people involved. When it doesn't, there's a discussion and something changes. And the change covers everything from accepting that something isn't going to change to transitioning a relationship. All of which I see as a success.
A broad, loosey goosey definition, I know, but it works for me. Kind of depends on people knowing what they actually want and, as people have said, the ability of the people involved.
Just read the entire thread. These kinds of discussions always make me think of of my favorite Onion story of all time: couple mistakes longevity for quality. "Those close to the Rafterys are also said to have mistakenly referred to their paralyzing fear of being alone as “true love.”" ha hahah ahaha makes me laugh every time I hear it! I've so been there!
Each of us has our own definition of "success". In some cases that's "stability" (whatever that means), longevity, etc. For me, it's that a relationship satisfies the needs of the people involved. When it doesn't, there's a discussion and something changes. And the change covers everything from accepting that something isn't going to change to transitioning a relationship. All of which I see as a success.
A broad, loosey goosey definition, I know, but it works for me. Kind of depends on people knowing what they actually want and, as people have said, the ability of the people involved.
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