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So, this message happened: Ok. I've received similar messages before. I usually don't reply to them, but nothing out of the ordinary. About an hour and a half later, according to the timestamps, they said this: I... don't know how to respond to that. Even though I've wished many times that...

I chose "I've always had poly tendencies and never really took to monogamy" because it is close enough. Monogamy has never made sense to me, but for a good chunk of my life, I believed that cheating or sticking to casual relationships were the only viable alternatives. I didn't want to cheat...

I successfully changed my name a while ago. I was told the following:

There's this one woman in one of the poly groups I meet with that likes to share her OKC messages with everyone. She'd love this thread. Recurring themes include men with low match/high enemy percentages claiming they have a lot in common, men comparing themselves to Christian Grey, and...

I'm one of those Cartesian "everything is subjective, nothing is certain" types. So, no, and, no. We can make predictions based on available evidence, though. That's something!

The problem with expectations isn't that expectations in themselves are good or bad, it's that people often don't go about things in the healthiest of ways, and tend to assign responsibility where it doesn't belong. Expectations, in the context here, are essentially predictions of future...

So it was an emotional outburst. It happens, it's not really a big deal. Putting the focus on fixing problems and the actual consequences of one's actions instead of manufactured consequences like punishment/revenge. Yeah, pretty much. This sounds like a hybrid direct democracy/representative...

Wow. While reading the rest of your post, I was thinking "This person seems reasonable and I more or less agree with what they are saying." Then I read this paragraph and thought the opposite. While you claim that I don't know what I'm talking about and that what I said is bullshit, I think...

Should your kids be taken away? No. Unfortunately, my opinion doesn't matter in this situation. Fortunately, most courts (in the Western world, anyway) would agree with me. I take it you're a biological parent? Generally, biological parents have to seriously fuck up to lose custody of their...

Really? I mostly just rehashed what others were saying. I guess that can make a difference sometimes. As long as you're not planning on prefacing it with something along the lines of "Look what this idiot said," I'm fine with this. Although, I have a feeling that won't be a problem. After...

Like Marcus, I use the term Relationship Anarchy because it's a good description of my approach to relationships, descriptive verses prescriptive. Many would probably argue I'm not a "true Relationship Anarchist" or some such bullshit, but I'm generally unconcerned with such people's opinions...

It kind of sounds like you want someone to give you permission to not use condoms at all among the three of you. Is that an accurate assessment? If so, as a semi-anonymous stranger with no responsibility or personal risk in this situation, you have my permission to weigh the pros and cons and...

If you being new to poly has any part in feeling uncomfortable about this situation, it's minor. The primary reason is that there is risk involved, and you are uncomfortable with that risk. In my experience, sucking it up and proceeding for the sake of gaining "experience" is a bad idea...

The law was probably meant to apply to grooming young women for polygamy, but the wording is vague. "Teaching polygamy" could mean a lot of things.

In Michigan, it is illegal to "teach polygamy," whatever the hell that means. I'm sure my anthropology professor would be happy to know that she's broken the law hundreds of times. I've violated this law myself several times as well, both in school and outside of school.

People have a habit of assuming more solidarity amongst groups of people that are different than there actually is. Here the response is generally "there's no consensus." That's generally true of any group. Even if there is a consensus, there will be people in that group that disagree with...

Yes, that is what you said. I also agree that it is a valid assessment of the situation, and that it is possible that's what this is. From what I can tell, there aren't any disputes here. Stop causing trouble, Marcus. :p I frequently hesitate to communicate attraction or romantic interest...

^Yes, and I stated differing opinions, stated that I disagreed with some of the opinions expressed, and offered explanations for my reasoning. Nowhere did I say any opinion expressed was invalid. Being a discussion forum, occasionally people express opinions that differ from other opinions...

The difference between stalking and... something else, is whether or not the behavior is wanted. If two people enjoy interacting in a coy and timid manner, I don't see what the harm is. If one person enjoys interacting with another in a coy and timid manner and the other person would rather...

I wouldn't say the Triangular Model is specific to mono relationships, more that it focuses on how two people interact. Which, even with group relationships, there's a lot of two-person interactions within them. Companionate love can describe friendship, and empty love could describe the...