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    Trials and tribulations

    I also think she is not being sensitive or understanding about how difficult it is to adjust to an entire new relationship structure. It can take years. (It's taken me 7, and I still struggle a lot.) She has probably been thinking about it for a while and been reading, so it likely is easier for...
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    Identity is Weird

    I figured this might be the best place to clarify my current situation. There's....alot. Me: Pansexual. Kinky (dominant). I'm...whatever. Non-mono, a variety of which yet to be determined. I'm not sure of the explicit identity. We have multiple kids at home. W: Husband to me for 5 years...
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    He's in love, and I feel heartbroken

    I have no other support network or anyone I feel safe discussing this with, so you lovely folks are it. (Bunch of luckies. Clearly) I recognize I'm falling into mono tropes of love and connection and such (i.e. there can be ONLY ONE and ONE FOREVRRR), but I'm crying alot and can't seem to...
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    Getting out of my own Head

    Thank you for the insight and for sharing. I think for sure you might have hit on something and that I likely do need more time for me and recharging and declining invites. I had begun working on that actually before I wrote this to some extent even. I appreciate it. You've given perhaps a...
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    Getting out of my own Head

    Thank you for reminding me of questions like this. That always does help and can put me in a better state of mind for sure to even entertain my feelings. We practice parallel but in practice this actually looks alot like kitchen table. I am friends with all my metas. We spend time together...
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    Getting out of my own Head

    I also am not here to defend how we work our day to day. I'm not here to demonize my hubs. If someone has a suggestion about how to deal with time or emotions or whatever, I'm open. I'm here to hopefully find some kindship and ideas on how others deal with their negative feelings. Thanks all.
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    Getting out of my own Head

    I have some happy feelings for him. It's not easy. And to answer your question - the short version is that sometimes we get a sitter, sometimes we have "nights off" where we don't need a sitter because we're a blended family and have no kids together. They also often spend time with me as well...
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    Unicorn hunters , “No Men”

    My husband had a similar experience in swingerland in Atlanta. It sucks, the unicorn hunting. At least they're easy to spot? 🤷‍♀️
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    Getting out of my own Head

    To be clear, he has two partners who he sees regularly and the others are semi-regularly and for all intents and purposes close friends who he occasionally has sex with. I'm not here to bash him at all. He balances things very well and helps greatly with the bug chores at our home. Better, in...
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    Getting out of my own Head

    I've been poly for about 6 years with my husband of 5 years. I met him while he was in another poly relationship with someone else and they later broke up and we got married. I am newer to poly than he is.. I don't think I'm monogamous, and my husband is very securely and happily poly. He has 2...
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