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You are rght i will work on the wording and it will help w the mindset but ive talked to her about the sharing of pics. obvously the bulls that she has she likes to show them and make them happy but she had a connection to them. but she said she wouldnt have an interest in making her own...

yeah I think my wording is just bad but thats not my intention. I think about the emotional aspect as being partially responsible since I initiated all of this and she is emotionally opening herself up to these men due to the sitaution I asked for. if we go back to how we were before I dont see...

I appreciate all your feedback. You're right and I'm sure I need to change my mindset. I understand i don't own her body and have learned a lot about her through this process. We are in a good place and both agree if needed we can walk away from these alternative lifestyles and our relationships...

An update: I have spent some time on Fetlife. My wife and I have had many eye-opening and sober conversations. We have completely ended things w this guy, which was very upsetting for her. I felt it was necessary for the health of our relationship. We have discovered that while she did try...

I think you nailed it. We definitely didn't lay down ground rules and reality is definitely hitting now. There was a little bit of naivete on my part. I was the one that pushed early on. I knew she would lean more to the emotional side. Even though we didn't discuss specific boundaries, I think...

I know she asked but hasn't pushed super hard. They talk on the phone all the time. He's sent a lot of explicit videos but I watch enough catfish to know that could be fake. Wouldn't hurt to confirm

Well there's been tons of pics exchanged back and forth. She follows him on social.media. he's also is in a rock band too which adds to the appeal I guess But they exchange nudes on a regular basis. No video chat yet

Again, you make some great points. I agree that she is oversharing. We probably do that on the regular. We tell each other everything and that causes some unnecessary hurt. I always want to be her first choice and I believed I always was. This guy is probably her dream scenario and she has...

This was an eye opening post and you hit on a lot. Thank you. I do think she is NRE drunk and have felt so from the jump. Her telling me how much he is 100% her type and that I wasn't when we met was hard to hear. But i get it. I think it's caused her to look past stuff she never would...

Yeah, this is definitely not poly. Sorry I brought this here. My wife needed some type of connection, so that's why I felt this way. I do feel weird cuz I did push her towards this lifestyle, which she has embraced. I don't want to stop what were doing, but I think this one single relationship...

Should I shut it down? We had a conversation and she agreed to slow it down. She understands where I'm coming from. She found out he hasn't been totally honest with her. He told her and me that his gf knows what he's doing and then admitted that that was not the truth-- she doesn't know. So...

She's been pushing hard for video chat, but that hasn't happened, probably for that reason. Just phone calls.

Hello, I hope I can post my story here and ask for some advice, as I think this has some poly elements, even though we started in cuckold/hotwife territory. My wife and I have expanded and explored our sexual life over the past few years, trying many new things, which she has enjoyed, from sex...

I have enjoyed both of your post, and these are great insights into my situation. I definitely don't want to give off the vibe that she belongs to me or is a possession, anymore than in a monogamous relationship how you give yourself to each other fully and there are certain expectations placed...

I appreciate all the feedback and I know i will need to have an honest conversation with my wife. We were recently talking about the situation when she was propositioned for poly last night and she mentioned how her biggest issue w poly is if I was dating other people it would make her feel like...

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Hello. I am looking for some guidance. I think I may have been dabbling in the idea of poly and trying to approach to re-approach the topic with my wife of 10 years. We have been together for 15. Our sex life has always been great and our marriage is pretty rock-solid and we communicate very...