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About Saturday night: I did not expect to see Bass except for Friday evening. Everyone was surprised after the show, and Bass and George got on surprisingly well. I'm still getting used to the whole parallel situation. Bass then asked if I had time on Sunday when George had gone. I told him I...

It was an interesting weekend. It seems a lot of his actions are based on what Mulie (and Sage) are doing. Mulie was away for the weekend for an urgent work matter, so we had Friday evening, Sunday afternoon and he unexpectedly came to my performance on Saturday night. No overnights because of...

They're going to do weekend away for Sage and him anniversary after the holidays on some of the islands close by when she's back here, it is not included in a work trip. So I'm trying to make sense of his reasoning, place and what role I have. George and I don't have kids. The kids are from my...

In the three month time span, Sage has been back here once (one overnight) and he went to see her once for a week (incl worktrip). I understand everyone handles things differently. It's the overpromising and underdelivering that irritates me. No kids, but I spend time with my metas kids if they...

I agree. Problem is that I have made it known that ample quality-time is my main love language. I don't even mind if he brings his work so we can just both spend time together while I do something else. If it's true that Mulie has problems with feeling replaced and nearing a co-primary, he...

I have read your story, it's informative, but it doesn't look close to mine. Thank you for sharing. Bass is not running away to a new girl friend from his household duties because they "just opened up." It has been many years of them doing non-monogamy, and minimum 5 years of polyamory so with...

I did ask about his relationship with Sage and would like to have the same kind of dynamic. That would include overnights. He agreed. Sage does kitchen poly herself with her other partners, and I've heard from our mutual poly people she would want to be introduced by Bass, but he hasn't made...

I agree, and would want to have fair treatment. But ofcourse I do not want to be in someone's house if I'm not welcome. Mulie has not been open for logistic communications. Her initial introduction over the phone was rather cold, yet supportive.

You're probably right and I have to speak with him about this.

It's inconsistent, but could be 1, 2 or even 3 depending on the duration of her stay. She has her own home here as well. During our time of dating she has only been with him once and they had one overnight, and ofcourse has overnights when he goes to visit her.

If one tells me they want something longterm with intend to build, overnights are automatically the baseline.

We are seeing each other 1 or 2 nights a week. In the initial stages of talking I asked how his situation looked like, and I would want to date him with the intention of building and longterm. He agreed. If one tells me that he does overnights with another partner, I don't think I need to...

Mulie is monogamous and they have a nuclear family set-up and then Bass does parallel with Sage and me. So we usually go either to a hotel, or to my place, but goes home at the end of the evening. She knows I'm dating him, we exchanged numbers for emergency, and for the rest it's out of my...

I thought I didn't need to ask because Sage has overnights and we were going the same direction. He told me because Sage is overseas and comes here he can do overnights, but because I live here, he can't. Sage is from here, so I don't really understand his reasoning. Somehow it doesn't make a...

Do you mean Sage? Yes, they do overnights when he's visiting her, and when she's back here. She's also polyamorous, and while I never met her, we have some acquaintances in common and she's cool. Bass and Mulie do parallel poly. Mulie and I exchanged some messages in case of emergency, but I'm...

Why say that you can? There seems to be a lot of (mind)space for attention, wanting to check-in on me, just not physical-time.

Hello everyone, I'm not new to polyamory, but have not a lot of experience in the dating part. It's been three months since I have been dating someone. In the initial stages of talking, he (Bass) mentioned he was able to give about 40% of his time, that he had another partner (Sage) overseas...