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Dreamcatcher

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Hi,

I'm Joe and I just joined.

A little story about me. I'm 42 and have been divorced 3 years ago. I tried so hard to make the monogamous thing work. It didn't and I hurt myself and hurt the hearts of two women that I dearly loved.

My wife was not really a very passionate woman. My intense sex drive and passion overwhelmed her, and was often more than she wanted. Our home life suffered and neither of us were happy. She told me to go out and seek the true passionate connection I needed. So I did, and found a wonderful connection. But my wife became jealous, and would not accept my lover into our relationship, and into our home. It hurt me and it hurt my lover to not have her accepted as an equal by my wife. In the end, jealousy came into play and our marriage fell apart. I lost my wife, and I lost my lover too. Double heartbreak was difficult to take.

Three years have past. I am recovering, and putting my life back together emotionally. I am currently single. I am strong again, and positive again. I find myself in a unique situation where I am ready to re-invent my life and build it back into exactly what I always wanted. I want to love again, and be free to let myself love the way I want to. I want to learn from my mistakes, and move forward and create the ulitmate poly family that I know in my heart I am made for.

I love to be a provider, and take care of those who I love. I think the ulitmate situation for me is a FMF triad. This will take alot of work and patience I know, but will pay off in the happiness of all of us.

I have much more to share, and much, much to learn, but this post will serve well as my initial introduction.
 
Welcome! I'm glad to hear you're strong again. I'm curious about why you have decided that an FMF triad is the right fit for you?
 
God luck with your dream of a FMF triad... You're going to need it.
 
Maybe he just means a V. but he can learn as he goes.

Leetah
 
Dreamcatcher...I do not think it's wise to try and force things. Maybe you need to learn that again? Why not just let relationships take their natural course?
 
OK, so what's the difference between a V, and a FMF triad?

I'm not trying to force anything.. I'm just wanting to think about what would really make me happy, and then try and create that in my life. :)

I can tell you what hasn't worked, and that is trying to live in a traditional monogamous relationship with a partner who is jealous.
 
A triad tends to refer to when all three people are romantically involved with each other and a V is when two of the people are involved with the third romantically but not with each other. As you can imagine it is harder to find 3 people who are all interested in romance with each other at the same time. This is why the warning not to force it. You can do a search and find out all kinds of info on relationship types.

Leetah
 
oh, ok. Thank you Leetah, for clearing that up. I guess I'm feeling that a V works well for me. I want to be realistic, but most of all, true to myself.
 
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Keep in mind - there is no rulebook that says all people in poly relationships have to live together. Expecting and hoping for that from the get-go can only lead to disappointment. So, if you do meet a few potentials and wind up having several relationships, they aren't required to be friends, nor even meet. They just need to be okay with the fact that you are non-monogamous.
 
Greetings Joe,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Sounds like you've had to learn some rough lessons regarding love and relationships. I'm glad you are doing better now, and wish you well on your search for an MFM V, or whatever configuration you find and enjoy.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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