Hi, everyone! Sunray here. I'm 38, bi/queer cis female, poly for about 14 years, living in Western Massachusetts. Currently the hinge in a V with MonkeyMan (35/M/cis/het/poly--in a relationship with me for about 12 years, married for 10 this summer) and long distance love RacingSnail (39/M/cis/het/mono--friends for 20 years, been dating for less than a year, currently, though we have some history). I also consider my best friend/ex-girlfriend one of the most important people in my life. MightyCupcake and I transitioned our relationship successfully about eight years ago. (I often find myself wishing for better language to talk about this emotionally intimate and occasionally romantic post-sexual best-friendship.)
MonkeyMan and I tend towards an egalitarian, kitchen-table style of poly. Unlike a lot of folks, we were never monogamous at the beginning of our relationship, just for a while in the middle. I feel like the fact that we share secure attachment styles and a penchant for direct communication has set us up for success in navigating multiple relationships with a minimum of drama, at least so far. I am afire with anticipation to see how things work out with RacingSnail in the context of our family over the long term--it's so hard to guess how things will unfold! And he's visiting next week, and I am looking forward to my guys getting in some quality metamour time--at a minimum, MonkeyMan is picking RacingSnail up from the airport, and it's a solid 50 minute drive.
The only other thing that has been going on with me lately is coming out poly all over again with my family of origin. (A seven-year hiatus in multiple relationships will lead people to make erroneous conclusions about one ‘settling down’--or at least that was my concern.) Sent out those emails this weekend… we’ll see how things shake out!
MonkeyMan and I tend towards an egalitarian, kitchen-table style of poly. Unlike a lot of folks, we were never monogamous at the beginning of our relationship, just for a while in the middle. I feel like the fact that we share secure attachment styles and a penchant for direct communication has set us up for success in navigating multiple relationships with a minimum of drama, at least so far. I am afire with anticipation to see how things work out with RacingSnail in the context of our family over the long term--it's so hard to guess how things will unfold! And he's visiting next week, and I am looking forward to my guys getting in some quality metamour time--at a minimum, MonkeyMan is picking RacingSnail up from the airport, and it's a solid 50 minute drive.
The only other thing that has been going on with me lately is coming out poly all over again with my family of origin. (A seven-year hiatus in multiple relationships will lead people to make erroneous conclusions about one ‘settling down’--or at least that was my concern.) Sent out those emails this weekend… we’ll see how things shake out!
