A Question for the Guys

I agree with XTremeMeow.
“A lot of men are drawn to the overall vibe of a woman: confidence, warmth, how she carries herself, her smile, her eyes, her sense of humor, the way she engages in conversation. Those things stick way longer than any specific body part.”
(I also haven’t figured out how to do that fancy thing where you attach part of the post in a separate box. I’m new here.)
But, what draws my attention is that sense of confidence, that sense of self. Head up, eyes bright, almost predatorily aware. Some people have described it as “the It factor”. We don’t know what “It” is but she has got “It”. After that I enjoy looking at and touching a nicely shaped booty. Doesn’t have to be big or anything just something that fits the body.
 
Gingerbredman said:
I agree with XTremeMeow.
“A lot of men are drawn to the overall vibe of a woman: confidence, warmth, how she carries herself, her smile, her eyes, her sense of humor, the way she engages in conversation. Those things stick way longer than any specific body part.”
(I also haven’t figured out how to do that fancy thing where you attach part of the post in a separate box. I’m new here.)
But, what draws my attention is that sense of confidence, that sense of self. Head up, eyes bright, almost predatorily aware. Some people have described it as “the It factor”. We don’t know what “It” is but she has got “It”. After that I enjoy looking at and touching a nicely shaped booty. Doesn’t have to be big or anything just something that fits the body.
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Yeah, I totally get what you mean. That “vibe” you’re describing hits way harder than anything physical on its own. Confidence, self-awareness, the way someone carries themselves, that’s the kind of thing that pulls you in before you even realize it. Some people really do have that It factor, and it’s not something you can fake. It’s in the way they look at you, the way they walk into a room, how present they are.

And honestly, I was nodding along with pretty much everything you said. The physical stuff is great, sure, I appreciate a nicely shaped booty too when it fits the person naturally, but it’s the whole package that makes it actually magnetic. The energy, the attitude, the little moments of connection… that’s what sticks.
Glad to see I’m not the only one who feels that way. It's always nice finding someone who gets it.
 
Friendship is my prerequisite for intimacy, but does necessarily precipitate it. Womanhood is profoundly attractive and is realized in different ways in those friends, body and mind. Always find many facets to appreciate and love. regardless of whether intimacy happens.
 
I like different things about different women. Boobs are usually one of the things that get my attention first, but that can be a flat chest and the way it looks on the woman. It's kind of the overall look of the woman from a purely visual physical appearance. If boobs caught my attention first if I'm facing a woman head on I will usually glance at her face to see her smile (if she's smiling) and her eyes (if I'm close enough). From the side or back it's the overall shape and then the butt and legs next. I'm one of those guys who prefer more slender, smaller butts. If I'm still looking I'll then look at her shoulders. I love broad shoulders.

Sometimes it's just the way the woman carries herself that causes my initial attention. I like someone who looks bold and energetic, but there are also times where a woman who is somewhat restrained catches my eye as well.

I am horrible at meeting women so even if I were to notice one and find her attractive it's very unlikely that I'd interact with her unless there's some outside reason to do so. I'm great in some sort of role such as registering someone for an event or welcoming someone to a situation.
 
Bsweet2Bev said:
This may seem like a weird question but I’m wondering what guys are most attracted to in women. My late husband was very much a boob guy. My current boyfriend is, as well. Are T&A standard things with guys, as far as attraction?

Personally, I’m very much an eye person when it comes to attraction. That song from the '90s about getting lost in his eyes very much describes how I am.

I’m asking about this specifically because I’m wondering if a woman who’s lacking in the boob department either by mastectomy, or just really flat chested, is a big deal. I know boob jobs are the thing for older women like myself. I don’t think I could put myself through that personally, but I know women who really want their puppies front and center.

Are there other things men find an instant attraction to? Like walking into a bar, are men looking for the Kardashian curves? Just curious to see what you guys have to say.
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Honestly, this question is so subjective I'm not really sure it should matter to you in the slightest. I think the best advice I can give you is just be yourself, whatever that is. Just be completely yourself, no matter who that is. Don't like shaving? Show those hairy armpits to the world. Like wearing clown suits because it's fun? Just do it. You'll find someone who loves who you are.

For me, what I find attractive is someone who's just real. I think heavy makeup, fake lashes, drawn-on eyebrows, trimmed tiny eyebrows, puffed up lips (you know, that clown-looking influencer look) are an absolute and instant turn off. Come up to me and have that stuff, you'd need to offer me about 10 million to even consider going out with you, with no guarantees. Then I'd take the money, go on a date and never talk to you again. 😆

I find women who don't wear deodorant extremely attractive. I think this is biological response. I try to limit endocrine disrupters and take care of my body, so I'm pretty in-tune with my caveman side. I find it ironic that so many people, especially women, spend money to make themselves smell good and be attractive, when hundreds of thousands of years of biological instinct goes against it. If you smell like al chemical factory, it does nothing for me but bother my sniffer. Yes, I also understand the social stigma to this, but it is what it is.

Women who don't shave get about 1,000,000 bonus points right off the bat.

To be attracted to a woman, she doesn't have to be thin, but she needs to be relatively proportionate and healthy looking. But the healthier of a weight she is, the more I'm attracted to her. I'm not attracted to bigger ladies.

Oddly enough, I'm more attracted to a woman who dresses more conservatively as well, almost like a Mormon lady, I would guess.

It's just too subjective. But there you have my answers.
 
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