A Question for the Guys

Bsweet2Bev

Bsweet2Bev

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This may seem like a weird question but I’m wondering what guys are most attracted to in women. My late husband was very much a boob guy. My current boyfriend is, as well. Are T&A standard things with guys, as far as attraction?

Personally, I’m very much an eye person when it comes to attraction. That song from the '90s about getting lost in his eyes very much describes how I am.

I’m asking about this specifically because I’m wondering if a woman who’s lacking in the boob department either by mastectomy, or just really flat chested, is a big deal. I know boob jobs are the thing for older women like myself. I don’t think I could put myself through that personally, but I know women who really want their puppies front and center.

Are there other things men find an instant attraction to? Like walking into a bar, are men looking for the Kardashian curves? Just curious to see what you guys have to say.
 
I'm not a hetero guy, but I am a non-binary, pansexual person. Does that count? lol

I like boobs. But boobs don't have to be big to be attractive. I actually hate the look of fake augmented boobs, unless they are not overly inflated and look really natural. Breasts are supposed to be soft and fall to the side when you lie down. To me, it's not attractive when a mature woman's breasts point to the ceiling when she's on her back.

With any kind of cosmetic surgery, don't do it for others. Do it for yourself.

Walking into a bar, the last thing I am looking for is a Kardashian. I do find an hourglass figure attractive, but I guess, as a Hollywood Golden Era fan, Marilyn Monroe would represent that for me. However, a smaller-breasted more boyish figure is also appealing to me. I'd rather be with someone who uses fashion to make the most of what they've got, rather than spending thousands of dollars to get silicone bags put in. I know some women have bad reactions to the silicone after a while too, and end up having their implants removed.
 
I think Marilyn Monroe was a truer representation of a woman’s body than a Kardashian could ever be. Great point.
 
Hi Bsweet2Bev,

For me I guess looks are important in the beginning. However, as time goes by, personality becomes more important. A woman with a good personality is attractive, if it makes sense for me to put it that way.

As far as the physical attractiveness goes, I am interested in "the whole package," face and body. I would feel confined with just a T&A view of things. And I don't conform to ideal stereotypes, for example any size of breasts can be attractive to me.

Anyway that's my perspective.
Kevin T.
 
When it comes to a body, I like curves. Boobs are certainly a factor there, but also hips, thighs, butt, shoulders, a curved face, etc.

However, that’s just the looks, because the real person is more important to me overall. Curvy assholes exist too.
 
Am I allowed to chime in as a bisexual? I do not care for boobs at all. I do, however, appreciate the hourglass figure, as well, as mentioned above. But for me, connecting through the soul comes first, no matter what the looks are.
 
Wocky said:
When it comes to a body I like curves. Boobs are certainly a factor there, but also hips, thighs, butt, shoulders, a curved face, etc.

However, that’s just the looks, because the real person is more important to me overall. Curvy assholes exist too.
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Yes, curvy assholes exist, as long as there is a mouth attached to the body lol. It seems that as a guy ages, he appreciates a more full-bodied woman. Obviously I was referring more to the initial attraction. Then personality, compatibility and chemistry come into play after that. I’ve met men who tick all my physical “boxes,” but have bored me to tears.
 
Breasts do not matter for me so much. It mainly is the curves and the eyes for me, from a visual perspective. Connecting through the eyes and the things unsaid.
 
Bsweet2Bev said:
I’ve met men that tick all my physical “boxes” but have bored me to tears.
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Yeah, men often bore me to tears too. Fortunately my hobbies seem to have many more women. An oddity of me, but a positive one!
 
Quasar said:
Breasts do not matter for me so much. It mainly is the curves and the eyes for me from a visual perspective. Connecting through the eyes and the things unsaid.
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I agree. I’m very much an eye person.
 
I'm more into legs, the longer the better. The first time I saw Cookie she was wearing a dress that went to the floor, but had a slit up one side that showed a flash of leg with every step. It made me overcome any shyness or fear of rejection. I simply had to go over and talk to her.
 
Bsweet2Bev said:
I’m wondering what guys are most attracted to in women. My late husband was very much a boob guy. My current boyfriend is, as well. Are T&A a standard thing with guys, as far as attraction? Personally, I’m very much an eye person when it comes to attraction. That song from the 90's about getting lost in his eyes very much describes how I am.

Why I’m asking about this specifically is I’m wondering if a woman who’s lacking in the boob department, either by mastectomy, or just really flat chested, is a big deal. I know boob jobs are the thing for older women, like myself. I don’t think I could put myself through that, personally, but I know women who really want their puppies front and center. Are there other things men find an instant attraction to? Like, walking into a bar, are men looking for the Kardashian curves? Just curious to see what you guys have to say.
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I asked my husband the same question. He told me that, besides my body, he likes that fact that I am very feminine and girly. I have a sweet smile, a soft voice. I AM ALWAYS HONEST, which is extremely important. I cook. I am there for him, and so on.

When guys are asked this question, they immediately say, "Tits or ass or nice mouth to suck." Real men start by saying what truly is important: your soul.
 
You have a keeper there. My late husband was never that articulate. He did tell people that I had wonderful boobs, and made a lot more money than he did (not sure how both of those things were equal in his mind). I don’t know about seeing my "soul," but he did tell his mom that I was “the one” after only three dates, so I guess he saw something he liked. lol
 
Thinking about this again is interesting. When I was first attracted to my wife, a big part was just that I liked her. I honestly don’t think it was because of how she looked. I had known her for years but never thought of dating her until we started talking more. (Wow, I was soooo poly there.) Once we did, I was definitely attracted to most of her. I was a teenager! 20 years later, even with the wear and tear of having kids, and general aging, I still love how she looks.

I see other people that are supposed to be really attractive, but they’re still just “eh” to me. We both honestly love what we do more than how we look.

Dang, reflecting on my parents, her parents, and so many other couples we know makes me glad we are where we are now, not where their relationships were that crushed them all.
 
I am not a typical guy. The first thing that attracts me to a woman are the eyes - they are what makes me want to talk with them. From there it's the personality that gets me interested. But for sexual attraction it's the figure itself. I am not into big breasts at all. It's how well the entire figure fits the body. I don't know if that makes sense to you at all. But that would be the best answer I can give.
 
Chantry said:
I am not a typical guy. The first thing that attracts me to a woman are the eyes. They are what makes me want to talk with them. From there, it's the personality that gets me interested. But for sexual attraction it's the figure itself. I am not into big breasts at all. It's how well the entire figure fits the body. I don't know if that makes sense to you at all. But that would be the best answer I can give.
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That makes sense. You’re not into a woman who is too top heavy or has a lot of junk in the trunk. You like a more hourglass figure, and from a woman’s perspective, I find that nice. I think that eyes have a lot to do with initial attraction, just because you can communicate so much with a long glance. I can usually get an initial “maybe” or “hell no” vibe from a guy with a good catch of the eye.
 
Wocky said:
Thinking about this again is interesting. When I first was attracted to my wife a big part was just that I liked her. I honestly don’t think it was because of how she looked. I had known her for years, but never thought of dating her until we started talking more. Wow, I was soooo poly there. Once we did I was definitely attracted to most of her. I was a teenager!

20 years later, even with the wear and tear of having kids and general aging, I still love how she looks. I see other people that are supposed to be really attractive, but they’re still just “eh” to me. We both honestly love what we do more than how we look.

Dang, reflecting on my parents, her parents, and so many other couples we know, makes me glad we are where we are now, not where their relationships were that crushed them all.
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I was pretty lucky in the parents department, but I do think that a few “Daddy issues” led me into my first (doomed to fail) marriage. I thought that all men had nasty temperaments, and I had no idea about good communication in a marriage. Luckily I had a great man the second time around. I don’t think I would have had it in me to try a third time. lol
 
Bsweet2Bev said:
This may seem like a weird question but I’m wondering what guys are most attracted to in women. My late husband was very much a boob guy. My current boyfriend is, as well. Are T&A standard things with guys, as far as attraction?

Personally, I’m very much an eye person when it comes to attraction. That song from the '90s about getting lost in his eyes very much describes how I am.

I’m asking about this specifically because I’m wondering if a woman who’s lacking in the boob department either by mastectomy, or just really flat chested, is a big deal. I know boob jobs are the thing for older women like myself. I don’t think I could put myself through that personally, but I know women who really want their puppies front and center.

Are there other things men find an instant attraction to? Like walking into a bar, are men looking for the Kardashian curves? Just curious to see what you guys have to say.
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Everyone’s different, but most guys aren’t working off one universal checklist. Sure, some men are very into breasts, others are into butts, and plenty of us have preferences, but they’re not as “make or break” as it can feel.

A lot of men are drawn to the overall vibe of a woman: confidence, warmth, how she carries herself, her smile, her eyes, her sense of humor, the way she engages in conversation. Those things stick way longer than any specific body part.

Speaking personally (and from what many guys say), eyes, voice, attitude, and connection carry far more weight than cup size. A mastectomy or being flat-chested isn’t a dealbreaker for men who are actually looking for a partne, not a fantasy. Chemistry doesn’t come from curves alone.

When a guy walks into a bar, some will notice curves, some will notice faces, some will notice who seems fun or approachable. It really isn’t one-size-fits-all, and there are definitely men who prefer small chests or genuinely don’t care either way.

If you’re comfortable in your own skin, that confidence tends to be the thing people are most drawn to. And honestly, the right guy will value you more than your “T&A.”
 
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