advice for transitioning to nonsexual relationship with primary partner

Have you considered therapy? While the SSRI's will help with neurochemical part of the depression, often learning new coping skills, reframing the problem, etc can be beneficial as well. Research indicates success is more likely when a person has both.

I know what you're thinking: the situation is depressing so how can therapy help? It won't change the situation. True, but maybe you can learn to be at peace with it.
 
Well. Here is an update.

Therapy and meds have helped. I even got to go out on a date. It didn't go anywhere but that's ok.

My partner suddenly has a new sweetie and seems to have found her sexuality again... though not with me. This will be the 6th night in a row she has been with him. I've had some childish reactions to this that I'm not proud of, but I'm trying to accept that she is doing her, living her truth and that she deserves to have the NRE. We both deserve happiness and to get our needs met, but I do feel kinda bitter that she is now, and I'm not.

Feeling really hurt, but them's the breaks sometimes with poly. Trying to decide if I want to stay or not.
 
Yeah, that sucks. I mean I get the NRE factor and all but Jeezh, if you felt rejected by her before you must really feel rejected now.

It's good to hear that there are a few positives at work in your life now, even if they're not nearly enough to offset the negatives. May you have more opportunities to go on dates in the future.

Staying or leaving is an important decision and one you'll need to make independently. Think it through with care; try to give it some thought at times when you're relatively calm.
 
No prob; best wishes and all that. Will continue to follow this thread.
 
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