Newobsession
New member
Hey all, I am pretty new to all of this:
Three weeks ago my wife let me know she was sexting with an old flame. This took me by surprise, and I am rolling with it. Initially I asked for boundaries (I was really uncomfortable with her saying "I love you" to him, but I am getting used to it)
I have been reading the books, we have been communicating and I am wondering about them taking their relationship into the physical realm. He is long distance, so this would entail her going away for a couple of days.
She has told me she wants to have sex with him, but does not want it to wreck our marriage.
I feel like I am at a point where I can emotionally deal with it happening, and I feel like I owe this to her.
What do I need to have in place to make this successful? Am I far off? There are logistics involved, so it's not like if I gave the green light it would happen this weekend.
Jump in? Ask her to wait? I want it to happen for her, but I am just not sure there will ever be a "good time"
Considering this all started as a secret affair, is there even hope for this turning into successful V?
Appreciate the insight.
Three weeks ago my wife let me know she was sexting with an old flame. This took me by surprise, and I am rolling with it. Initially I asked for boundaries (I was really uncomfortable with her saying "I love you" to him, but I am getting used to it)
I have been reading the books, we have been communicating and I am wondering about them taking their relationship into the physical realm. He is long distance, so this would entail her going away for a couple of days.
She has told me she wants to have sex with him, but does not want it to wreck our marriage.
I feel like I am at a point where I can emotionally deal with it happening, and I feel like I owe this to her.
What do I need to have in place to make this successful? Am I far off? There are logistics involved, so it's not like if I gave the green light it would happen this weekend.
Jump in? Ask her to wait? I want it to happen for her, but I am just not sure there will ever be a "good time"
Considering this all started as a secret affair, is there even hope for this turning into successful V?
Appreciate the insight.