an introduction for once

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basilisc

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I almost never introduce myself on forums (I'm not sure why) but I feel like this is the sort of place I'd like to do that.

My name is Kevin and I live in Lansing, MI. My wife and I have been open/poly for about three months, but we both knew this was the direction we wanted to head and it feels very natural for us. We've both had some experiences (both good and bad) since opening up, but it's been so positive regarding our relationship with each other that it's clearly been the right choice.

I'm joining up here mostly to get insight into facets of the open/poly community and relationship dynamic that I haven't had much experience with personally. My decision to explore this online rather than through poly meetups in my area is that I am actively looking for another relationship right now, and I feel like whether I intend it or not I'm going to end up coming off as a shark at any meetings, which I would prefer not to do since I believe those meetings to generally be more about networking and a safe environment to share information rather than an avenue for finding potential partners.

As I explore this forum I hope to make some solid connections with like-minded folks in my area and across the globe. Thanks much for having me.
 
Hi and welcome! I am glad you introduced yourself.

The way not to come off as a predator at in-person meetings is to be present and engaged in what's taking place there. Don't go if you're not really interested in the topic or what they're doing. But do go if you simply want to meet other poly people to get to know. It's okay to be open to meeting people who might be potential partners wherever you are, but if you show up with the agenda to just pick somebody up, people will read that vibe and think you're creepy. It's all about your intention and what you put out there. Polyfolk will understand that you're open to meeting people and group organizers usually state the rules about how to conduct yourself and what is acceptable at these things. And maybe the meetings near you provide for a little socializing time to mix and mingle outside of the planned lecture or activities, so that would be okay.

Anyway, feel free to participate here, start threads, and ask questions. I beat our Official Greeter to welcome you, but he should be coming along anytime now, and his name is Kevin, too!
 
Kevin meet Kevin. :D

Greetings Kevin,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

If you'll invest some time reading and posting on our various threads, I think you'll develop the connections you're looking for. I think it's really good to be involved in a poly forum even if you attend local meetings as well.

You seem like a cool cat with a firm grounding. I'm pleased to meet you here.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
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