xmoonember
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On Friday my husband told me that he and our partner, Raven, said they love each other.
I am so beyond happy for them! My initial reaction was just a warm and fuzzy feeling, I was kicking my legs like a schoolgirl. It was so cute and seemed like such a vulnerable, touching moment between the two of them.
This was kind of a surprise, too. Raven has the most partners out of all of us, and Duck had some insecurities about feeling lower on her roster. With this proclamation he said it's doing wonders for his attachment to her, and I'm happy to see him relax a bit.
While initially I'm not worried about what this means with my marriage to Duck, I am curious about how it will be impacted long-term.
On Wednesday, Raven and I went out together and had our first real deeper conversation about where we're at. We both agreed no labels were needed, that we enjoyed where we are, and that we are open to deeper feelings. But now I'm wondering what was going through her head when we were chatting. Was she thinking about how she feels about Duck (and Finch)? Is there already a deeper connection between us? I can't say. I do know that I care for her deeply, and that dating her is much different than being with a man. So I'm wondering if what I am feeling is love, but different. I'm very secure with where the two of us are at, and feel like if the L word came out that I could comfortably embrace that feeling with her.
Finch, on the other hand... I'm a little scared of my feelings for him. The last few weeks when we've been together, I have definitely thought the L word in my head. But I also don't know if that's just the happy brain chemicals from intimacy or what.
I am also not very secure in my relationship with him. While I've had a similar conversation with him as I did with Raven (i.e., agreeing to be open to deeper feelings), I'm just not sure that's something he's capable of right now. I also wonder about our compatibility.
We all went out to karaoke the other night and Finch sang "Fly Me To The Moon," and of course he looked right at both Raven and I when the "I love you" line came up. But I don't want to read into that too much.
Additional update is that my cousin and friend got to meet our partners for the first time at karaoke the other night. It feels really good to start normalizing our relationship and being able to live freely and talk about what has become a large part of our lives.
Anyway, thanks for reading.
I am so beyond happy for them! My initial reaction was just a warm and fuzzy feeling, I was kicking my legs like a schoolgirl. It was so cute and seemed like such a vulnerable, touching moment between the two of them.
This was kind of a surprise, too. Raven has the most partners out of all of us, and Duck had some insecurities about feeling lower on her roster. With this proclamation he said it's doing wonders for his attachment to her, and I'm happy to see him relax a bit.
While initially I'm not worried about what this means with my marriage to Duck, I am curious about how it will be impacted long-term.
On Wednesday, Raven and I went out together and had our first real deeper conversation about where we're at. We both agreed no labels were needed, that we enjoyed where we are, and that we are open to deeper feelings. But now I'm wondering what was going through her head when we were chatting. Was she thinking about how she feels about Duck (and Finch)? Is there already a deeper connection between us? I can't say. I do know that I care for her deeply, and that dating her is much different than being with a man. So I'm wondering if what I am feeling is love, but different. I'm very secure with where the two of us are at, and feel like if the L word came out that I could comfortably embrace that feeling with her.
Finch, on the other hand... I'm a little scared of my feelings for him. The last few weeks when we've been together, I have definitely thought the L word in my head. But I also don't know if that's just the happy brain chemicals from intimacy or what.
I am also not very secure in my relationship with him. While I've had a similar conversation with him as I did with Raven (i.e., agreeing to be open to deeper feelings), I'm just not sure that's something he's capable of right now. I also wonder about our compatibility.
We all went out to karaoke the other night and Finch sang "Fly Me To The Moon," and of course he looked right at both Raven and I when the "I love you" line came up. But I don't want to read into that too much.
Additional update is that my cousin and friend got to meet our partners for the first time at karaoke the other night. It feels really good to start normalizing our relationship and being able to live freely and talk about what has become a large part of our lives.
Anyway, thanks for reading.