BF is vanilla with me, sub to his other GF. Need some perspective

Perhaps I'm projecting. I have difficulty with D/s dynamics and mistrust power exchanges. Thus I choose to be with people who conduct their relationships in an egalitarian model. When lady and I have tried dating each other, her D/s relationship with R disturbed me too much. It was weird to recognize my prejudices against such a relationship. I accept her need, I support her happiness, but it fundamentally bothered me and I discovered no matter how well the boundaries are held, I can't be romantically involved with someone in a power exchange. I'm still working on my issues about that response and prejudices against that relationship model. Cognitively I know it's a way for to express care, love, desires in a way that works for them. Emotionally it makes me squidgy. I can handle it at a distance, understand and celebrate when my friends are happy. But it still gives me pause.

I guess I just want to say that is ok to be uncomfortable with it and work through your feelings. It sounds like he holds good boundaries between relationships and his other relationship doesn't bleed over into yours. I would imagine the words thing could maybe be because it feels like she is now present in your relationship by proxie? It reminded me of a post about marks a few weeks back.
 
Re (from Cleo):
"I still feel like there is something I am missing here, something to work through, something I am too afraid to look at maybe."
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What scares you the most about your boyfriend's kinky relationship?
 
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