In my situation I was the one to listen when my partner M said he wanted to practice poly. We have been in a long distance relationship for 10 years, with me being able to go and stay with him for months at a time.
He has always had spanking and D/s play partners that he was close to and we had always been on the same page about those close relationships. A year or so ago he started a relationship with a play partner Kay that became a renter (in his house) that became a lover that became a girlfriend. At about the same time he proposed to me and I am making plans to move there.
I think some of our issues come from none of us knowing exactly how to "poly". I see us as in a hinge situation. My metamour wants to see us as a triad. My partner wants us to get along and be a family.
I don't know if all three of us have to see the relationship as the same thing as long as we communicating and making sure everyone is heard and can get their needs met (as best we can with conflicting needs!).
He has always had spanking and D/s play partners that he was close to and we had always been on the same page about those close relationships. A year or so ago he started a relationship with a play partner Kay that became a renter (in his house) that became a lover that became a girlfriend. At about the same time he proposed to me and I am making plans to move there.
I think some of our issues come from none of us knowing exactly how to "poly". I see us as in a hinge situation. My metamour wants to see us as a triad. My partner wants us to get along and be a family.
I don't know if all three of us have to see the relationship as the same thing as long as we communicating and making sure everyone is heard and can get their needs met (as best we can with conflicting needs!).
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