But I get last nights! Dibs and claims on time.

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Orlandobif

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My wife unit is leaving for 10 days to visit family and as the week unfolded in a fairly complex and messy way we were shuffling and canceling plans. She had to cancel date night with her girlfriend because of schoolwork and I suggested Friday night instead. Then I realized she was leaving Saturday at 7am and I just gave away my last night to see her. I try to be accommodating as I see her every day and date nights with the girlfriend can be problematic. BUT IT WAS THE LAST NIGHT I’D SEE HER. Then I had an internal temper tantrum. I’m the wife damnit. I get last nights! What the hell was I thinking when I suggested Friday?

This rolls right on top of veto power or claiming something that is RIGHTFULLY MINE! Truthfully I don’t do this. I’m fairly flexible with plans and changes to accommodate them as it’s difficult for them to get together but I did have a moment when I realized what had happened.

I’m curious. In the moment when you have a tantrum or a mental tantrum about sharing. What does that sound like? But that’s our restaurant! But we were going to go there and I wanted to be first! But it was the last time I could see you and you made plans?!?! I called DIBS!
 
It's been a long time since my last "dibs moment;" I am rather introverted and don't much mind having the house to myself while Brother-Husband and Snowbunny drive off to go somewhere. Plus when I do ask to go with them, their answer is yes and there doesn't seem to be an issue between the guys about "sharing" the lady's time.

There was a time about eight years ago when I threw a "real" temper tantrum and Snowbunny walked out on me (I lived in my own place at the time). The rest of "my time" she thus spent with Brother-Husband. I was quite bitter about that at the time.

Luckily I don't have tantrums these days ... thanks at least in part to Zyprexa.
 
fri was our 31st anniversary. over the years, dh would often forget & i would laugh. but this year it was a special anniversary. we moved into a new home in early feb & this was our 1st in the new home. the weekend before we had just hung 29 paintings, prints, posters etc. & put down 2 area rugs. it was feeling like home.

he & gf were making usual friday night plans. my conversation was something like "er ... uhm ... i was kinda hoping for friday." his response, "why?" mine "think about it." after a few moments of furrowed brow the light bulb went off in dh brain. "no no we'll make other plans!!" long story short, she didn't want him anywhere near her on fri night. grin! but if she insisted on fri, i was seriously considering sat night as "our" anniv night.

i smile/grin thinking about that situation. at least it didn't take several days for dh to figure it out!! dibs on friday anniversary night!
 
When I was involved in the first quad I was in, Pink!Girl and TheKnight ended up going out on an anniversary of ours. Which I didn't mind - we weren't going to be able to go out ourselves that day, young child and no sitter - but when he got home he DID post something mushy about the whole thing on FB. Which ended up causing (or contributing to? it's been long enough I don't exactly remember) a fight between them, but that was par for the course...
 
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