In short, if you don't want another serious long-term partner, don't look for someone that ticks all those boxes for you. Be up front about what you want (lots of hot sex, not so much on the commitment/romance aspects) and what you can offer (lots of hot sex, not so much on the commitment/romance aspects) and relax.
Yeah, thanks for that too. I often put the needs of others before my own. Perhaps I need to stop belittling my own needs and see where that leads, for a change.
I would love to find a way to have 'casual sex'.' I'm having two amazing relationships but not getting laid :/
Both of my partners are happy and supportive if I want to find another (for sex or a relationship or whatever it is that I need...).
I don't feel like I want/need/could handle another significant relationship in my life, but on the other hand, I'm not sure sex without connection would work for me.
So, friends with benefits-- what's all that about?
Nate has several friends with benefits. He texts with them occasionally. He then goes and screws them at their houses. He does this when I'm with Sam, at work, or at school. When I'm at home that is our time. He has one fwb that I'm close to that he invites places with us, and she sometimes comes over with her kid, but she's the only one I'm comfortable having over to our home.
I absolutely adore my FWB, Punk, and it is definitely not a casual relationship. We have a great deal of love between us, it just isn't the romantic kind. For me, however, having sex with a beloved friend isn't much of a stretch, because I'm a touchy-feely kind of girl anyway, and tend to hug and cuddle with even my nonsexual close friends.
Also, I make a distinction between FWBs and fuck buddies. Punk and I hang out, watch tv, go to movies or out to dinner, play with his kid, that sort of thing. For me, FWB is better than a fuck buddy because there IS an emotional connection, which I prefer, but it is not as intense as full-on romantic relationship, and not as time and energy consuming.
As do I. For me, FWBs are friends first. The sex is awesome, but if either of us is in a situation where sex is off the table (temporarily or permanently) then the friendship remains.
During certain periods of our relationship, VV has been involved with men who are uncomfortable with her having "outside" female relationships that don't involve them. Fine. (Not "great," just "fine." She's still super hot, I can lust after her without indulging, and she is such an AWESOME person that I want her in my life in whatever capacity that can happen.)
FBs are sexual "partners of convenience," sexually attractive and available, until they aren't. No hard feelings. One-night stands (or more) with no expectation or promise of ongoing repetition. If Dude, MrS and I (our cohabiting triad) broke up with Lotus, then I would no longer fool around (or pursue anything) with her husband, TT. Not because he is not an awesome person (he is), or doesn't share many interests with me (he does), but because there is no chemistry between us that either of us can't find elsewhere (less inconvenient).
