Coming out again :)

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AkraSimi

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Hi Everyone!

For safety's sake, call me Simi :)

Where should I start?

I'm terrible at introductions but I'll give it my best shot. Firstly, I am bisexual but I have been married to my husband for four years- which is, in itself, a bit of an irony. It's an irony because while I have had attractions to men, I have always just naturally been more attracted to women. So no one was really expecting it when I married a man! lol But I do love him very dearly and marrying him meant that I had to make a very important decision- monogamy.

I learned about polyamory when I was 14 and did practice it, but I was always led to believe that it was just something you did when you were young- not something that could ever have any real commitement. Which to me always sounded absurd but such is the social norm. So when I met my husband, I had to make a choice- let the love of my life walk away or swallow my "lifestyle" and make a choice. I chose love; although I did not make the decision quietly. My husband has always known about every aspect of my life, including my bisexuality and being polyamorous.

We have dedicated five years (four of those actually married) of that to each other, building our foundation, learning, making mistakes, and all the good (and bad) that comes with marriage. But one month ago my husband turned to me and said that he thinks I shouldn't have tried to deny the fact that I am polyamorous- and thus here I am.

For the first time in my life I am with someone who takes polyamory seriously and understands it. So, I guess I'm making it sound like we have it all figured out, but then I wouldn't be here :). While it feels absolutely amazing to know I'm with someone who really loves me for me (truly), I can't deny that I have more love to give. I can't deny that there is another part (the "lesbian" side) that craves to have a woman in my life too.

I'm Here, I'm Bisexual..I'm polyamorous. You'd think that being bisexual would have taught me that it's okay to be who I am, but I find myself back in that closet and in need of a community I can turn to. So, nice to meet you and I hope you'll have me :)
 
That's so wonderful, that your husband is so supportive!

And of course we'll have you! Welxome and nice to meet you! :)
 
Welcome Simi, and well done for accepting who you are and taking steps to realize that reality. You are so blessed to have a husband who is so understanding. I hope it all goes really well for you
 
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Welcome, Simi -

I'm married, too: 16 years and 2 kids. My story is similar to yours in that I'm coming out of a monogamy coma and rekindling my deep love of women that burned much brighter before I got married. I'm way older than you (I'm guessing) and should probably know better by now, but it's only very recently that I can even conceive that I might be bisexual. :eek: So, I'll see your "bisexual in need of a poly community" and raise you a decade, LOL. Welcome! Glad you're here.
 
Greetings Simi,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You must have picked the right man if he had the wisdom to voluntarily/spontaneously decide that polyamory is a good thing for you. :D That freedom must feel like a breath of fresh air.

I am glad to have you with us, and hope we can be of service to you.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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