Bowvine
New member
As I am very new to polyamory, I am still trying to get grounded and figure things out. As it is now, I feel my partner and I have been able to resolve our current issues and move forward.
The biggest factor that seems to impede our progress is communication. We are currently going to couples therapy with a therapist who understands the polyamorous dynamic. What I've suggested to my partner (Lane) is that we come up with some rules around how we communicate and resolve issues that arise. I am like a bomb when I get hit with something that knocks my socks off. I get angry, and unhealthy behavior follows right behind me. The way Lane and I are, we are great when we are getting along, but because we are so passionate, when we are in disagreement we're like when superheroes battle in a city full of mortals. Exaggeration, but you get the point.
I've heard a little through PM conversations and I was wondering what folks do to address issues that arise in their poly relationships. Right now, I'm part of a V, with Lane being the middle. I don't know Lane's partner, and won't be meeting him for a bit, because I've been told he isn't ready. So what do you folks suggest?
I was just thinking something along the lines of when a situation comes up, and someone is about to explode, to be like, "Wait, this is how we address these things. Do you need space to process, or would you like to start _________?" The blank being the method I have yet to set up with my partner.
Thoughts?
The biggest factor that seems to impede our progress is communication. We are currently going to couples therapy with a therapist who understands the polyamorous dynamic. What I've suggested to my partner (Lane) is that we come up with some rules around how we communicate and resolve issues that arise. I am like a bomb when I get hit with something that knocks my socks off. I get angry, and unhealthy behavior follows right behind me. The way Lane and I are, we are great when we are getting along, but because we are so passionate, when we are in disagreement we're like when superheroes battle in a city full of mortals. Exaggeration, but you get the point.
I've heard a little through PM conversations and I was wondering what folks do to address issues that arise in their poly relationships. Right now, I'm part of a V, with Lane being the middle. I don't know Lane's partner, and won't be meeting him for a bit, because I've been told he isn't ready. So what do you folks suggest?
I was just thinking something along the lines of when a situation comes up, and someone is about to explode, to be like, "Wait, this is how we address these things. Do you need space to process, or would you like to start _________?" The blank being the method I have yet to set up with my partner.
Thoughts?
