Inaniel
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That being said, I personally believe that your autonomy and desire to get pregnant should take precedence. That's a BIG relevant thing here, the fact that YOU want to get pregnant. And you didn't even say he's not ok with you being pregnant, but specifically he's not ok with you being pregnant by somebody else. That's a lot of power to give somebody else over decisions about your body and your future.
Shouldn't each of their autonomy take precedence? Focusing only on the pregnancy ignores the husbands autonomy to raise a child of his own offspring...
If the husband is worried about being legally responsible for another man's child perhaps the responsibility of detangling the relationship by dissolving the marriage contract (depending on local paternity laws) falls on him. I think it would be unfair for the OP to be in opposition of this decision given the circumstances. OP have you two considered legal divorce in leu of having your husband demand who's offspring you carry?
It could potentially allow you to have sex however you want to with BF and alleviate fears that your husband may have about being on the hook (legally speaking) for a child that is fathered by the boyfriend.
I find it sad that marriage law is so limiting in most of the world...