Couple wants to be throuple

[Desert_CPL8591]

Hello beautiful people,

Wife and I are trying to expand our marriage but having a hard time finding a woman in the lifestyle to date. We get a few messages and then nothing. Would rather meet someone in person to spark a conversation but have no idea where to even go. Near albuquerque in new mexico, anyone have some advice or leads?

 

[kdt26417]

There is an ENM group here in Albuquerque, contact mylievirus for more info.

• https://polyamory.com/threads/looking-for-community-in-new-mexico.155413/#post-520470
• https://polyamory.com/threads/albuquerque-polyamory-enm.159280/#post-521450

Hopefully that helps.

 

[Magdlyn]

Hello beautiful people,

Hello and welcome! I moved your thread to the section where you are likely to get the most feedback, since you asked for advice and leads.

Wife and I are trying to expand our marriage, but having a hard time finding a woman in the lifestyle to date.

So, first of all, I see your intentions are to have more love in your life, to share one woman between you. Perhaps the female member of your couple is bisexual.

You will find that polyamorists don't like to use the word "lifestyle" for polyamory much. "Lifestyle" has long been the favored euphemism for those in the swinger community to refer to themselves. Since polyamory addresses romantic love between more than two people, and swinging addresses sex only (no romantic love) between multiple people, using the word "lifestyle" in your online searched might cause confusion and frustration.

We get a few messages and then nothing. Would rather meet someone in person to spark a conversation but have no idea where to even go. Near Albuquerque in New Mexico. Anyone have some advice or leads?

Here is some general advice about what to do if you are an established couple looking for a single person to "share," or "add to your current relationship."

Our request of all those coming here seeking a "third," for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum:

https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/

Things to consider when you are looking for a unicorn to complete a triad-style relationship (aka "throuple"):

Triad or V - What's More Complicated?

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