Sooooo many failed relationships in my past, and now this one.
Perhaps it's time to let go of that language, "failed relationship," and think about using compatible/incompatible; healthy/unhealthy.
I don't think my break-ups were "failures." Horrible would have been to keep on going with them, like going through the motions. It was better to accept that we were not compatible or had grown in different directions. Both could move on. Nobody was "bad" or had "failed," we were just not panning out together.
You seem to really be in a time of grief and taking it hard, if this has to end. I'm sorry for that.
I do not feel seen or heard or validated in this relationship!!
Then it's not a healthy relationship in the "two-way street" kind of way, where there's relating "back and forth" going on.
Yup. You can't. It's not enough if he's emotionally closed off and has no plans to address that. Even if he agreed to poly, all of those problems would still be there.I NEED CONNECTION. I NEED EMPATHY and GENUINE INTEREST. As much as I WANT to stay with him and love him forever, I don't think I am capable of being in a monogamous relationship where I am not getting those deep needs met.