Bingo Mono...I've told my wife this many times. It's not her fault that I require more to complete the fullness in my heart and in my life. Still, it's a shock (maybe an insult in a way) and frustrating to her that she can't be the end all of end alls. Afterall, she has a 27 year history with me. You are right, it is a tremendous risk we take to add another person, another love to our life and to do it in a non cheating way, with our loved ones. To me it's the biggest risk a couple could make.