rauhajoule
New member
Hey all - I thought I should introduce myself, since I've posted a bit here and there, but hadn't really explained my story at all anywhere.
I was introduced to the world of polyamory in 2012, when I attended an event that hosted a polyamory workshop. It blew my mind that this relationship model was even an option! I thought it was the coolest thing, and was absolutely stoked to practice it.
So every relationship since then I started off with a "Hey, I'm into this idea of polyamory, how do you feel about that?" Most folks were open to it, although none of the relationships ever ended up as anything more than a dyad due to life circumstances.
My most recent (and so far most committed) relationship started in September 2015 (I call him Neutron here). He and I were both curious about polyamory, and decided that we should start our relationship off by calling ourselves poly. But besides a date or two here and there, neither of us started any other real relationships until September 2017, when Neutron started dating Mila.
Turns out theoretical polyamory and practical polyamory aren't the same thing. I keep explaining it to folks like "Theoretically, you can apply a lot of logic to polyamory, and it makes sense and should work and everything should be fine. But then you go to practice it and the logic is all there still, it's just buried under a mountain of feelings that you have to handle and process."
So Neutron and I started doing a shit ton of research, we blazed through More Than Two, I picked up the Ethical Slut (but didn't like it as much as MTT), I started talking to friends (turns out more of them were poly than I originally thought), started googling all the things, and started lurking on this site.
I think a really big turning point for me was flipping through the Life Stories/Blogs section and discovering that there were other real people in the world that had been practicing polyamory for years and lifetimes!
It feels as though my knowledge, vocabulary, and understanding have grown exponentially in the last three months. There have been a few bumps as I've been feeling out how polyamory actually fits on me, but so far it's wonderful and terrifying and challenging and beautiful.
More recently, in the last few weeks, I've started dating a new person as well. Seeing how that goes and progresses, and making an effort not to put expectations on it.
So anyway, thanks for making this real for me. I'm stoked to be part of this community of rad people!
I was introduced to the world of polyamory in 2012, when I attended an event that hosted a polyamory workshop. It blew my mind that this relationship model was even an option! I thought it was the coolest thing, and was absolutely stoked to practice it.
So every relationship since then I started off with a "Hey, I'm into this idea of polyamory, how do you feel about that?" Most folks were open to it, although none of the relationships ever ended up as anything more than a dyad due to life circumstances.
My most recent (and so far most committed) relationship started in September 2015 (I call him Neutron here). He and I were both curious about polyamory, and decided that we should start our relationship off by calling ourselves poly. But besides a date or two here and there, neither of us started any other real relationships until September 2017, when Neutron started dating Mila.
Turns out theoretical polyamory and practical polyamory aren't the same thing. I keep explaining it to folks like "Theoretically, you can apply a lot of logic to polyamory, and it makes sense and should work and everything should be fine. But then you go to practice it and the logic is all there still, it's just buried under a mountain of feelings that you have to handle and process."
So Neutron and I started doing a shit ton of research, we blazed through More Than Two, I picked up the Ethical Slut (but didn't like it as much as MTT), I started talking to friends (turns out more of them were poly than I originally thought), started googling all the things, and started lurking on this site.
I think a really big turning point for me was flipping through the Life Stories/Blogs section and discovering that there were other real people in the world that had been practicing polyamory for years and lifetimes!
It feels as though my knowledge, vocabulary, and understanding have grown exponentially in the last three months. There have been a few bumps as I've been feeling out how polyamory actually fits on me, but so far it's wonderful and terrifying and challenging and beautiful.
More recently, in the last few weeks, I've started dating a new person as well. Seeing how that goes and progresses, and making an effort not to put expectations on it.
So anyway, thanks for making this real for me. I'm stoked to be part of this community of rad people!
