Discovering poly

[Steichen]

Hi Everyone,

I just wanted to say I`m new and introduce myself. I'm an Irish guy living in Switzerland and relatively new to polyamorous relationships. As I've said in my profile, I have always felt that for me personally monogamy did not feel right. I spent (too many) years telling myself that there was something wrong with me for not fitting in to monogamous relationships. I finally discovered the true meaning of polyamory at the end of 2022 when I was introduced this type of relationship by an amazing woman who I now love dearly.

I feel like I have found home but I still struggle emotionally with pangs of insecurity and jealousy. I look at this as a part of myself I need to develop and work on and have come here seeking guidance and support.

Looking forward to getting to know you all.

Steichen

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Steichen,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I'm glad you have discovered polyamory, it is like the missing link in your life. I can give you some links on insecurity and jealousy, see if any of these might help:

• What If I Get Jealous?
• Unmasking the Green-Eyed Monster
• "First Aid" for Jealousy
• Jealousy, Envy, Insecurity, etc.
• Understanding jealousy
• How do you achieve compersion?
• Jealousy and Insecurity
• The Theory of Jealousy Management
• The Practice of Jealousy Management
• Teal Swan: Jealousy and Envy
• Brené Brown: the Power of Vulnerability

Hopefully that gives you a good start on the topic.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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