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Kittykate

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My husband and I are divorcing. I have had to stay in North Carolina with family because of our roommates and his girlfriend not allowing me back into their house. I found out that my husband and her were having sex and a relationship behind my back, even while I was there pregnant with his child. I would like to get some type of no contact order on her while we separate for both myself and him and also sue her for alienation of affections since she refuses to stop the relationship and is influencing his decisions as so does he. It has caused a lot of stress on me during this pregnancy to where I am now on medications. How would I go about this if anyone knows without bringing poly into this and possibly getting my children removed. I have proof they aren't stopping the relationship while we are divorcing and she is persuading him.
 
IMHO, I think during for alienation is not going to win him back. If anything it will make him resentful. Quiet honestly, poly has no place in this. Your husband according to your initial writings misled you into moving in. I think with your level of stress it is better if your not there. I would suggest you stop contact unless it is kids or finances and not worry about what they are or are not doing.

It's no longer your problem. Your husband is a functioning adult and is in nre, the more you fight the more attractive the nre is. Do the lies matter now, not really.
 
Kittykate said:
I would like to get some type of no contact order on her while we separate for both myself and him and also sue her for alienation of affections since she refuses to stop the relationship and is influencing his decisions as so does he.
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These are questions for your attorney! These are legal questions and each state has different rules. IMHO, I doubt any judge in their right mind would sign a document telling your STBX he can't have contact with his girlfriend, because she pisses you off. Find a good attorney, find a good therapist and do what you need to take care of yourself. Stop worrying about what they are doing or have done.
 
It's more so about her calling me crazy and pyscho and leading him into this. As well as if he bring her around me or my daughter I want a way to not have that happen especially with the blatant disrespect and the crazy comments and a baby on the way.
 
I don't want to be insensitive but you went into an open relationship and it didn't work out the way you planned. By all means get a divorce, get child support, get whatever. But alienation of affection? A no contact order for not just you but him as well? Isn't he still living with her!
 
Talk to attorney. Ask what is the max you can get for your case in your state. Full custody no visitation? Something else? What is realistic here? I think a professional opinion would be best.

I am so sorry that you are dealing in this.:(

Galagirl
 
WhatToDo said:
I don't want to be insensitive but you went into an open relationship and it didn't work out the way you planned. By all means get a divorce, get child support, get whatever. But alienation of affection? A no contact order for not just you but him as well? Isn't he still living with her!
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I agree with this, you went into this and anytime You allow others into your relationship you run the risk of getting involved with a cowgirl. Hope things work out, how shitty would it be when NRE wears off he discovers that hw threw away his family for some fling
 
Kittykate,

Stress less about what your husband's other partner is leading him into and think about what kind of person your husband is, or what kind of relationship you had, if he is so easily led away.

Your husband decided to continue to date her despite your request for him not to. I'm not saying he made the wrong choice, but I am saying that it's him and yourself that are accountable for the situation. I know that you are angry and hurt right now.

I would put your children first and leave poly out of it, based on your earlier posts. Poly has no relevancy here. This was an affair, since they were sleeping together without your prior knowledge or consent.

It is not your place to get a no contact order placed on her on your husband's behalf. I can't see this getting approved.

I'm sorry to hear you are taking medication due to stress. You are responsible for your body, and for your unborn baby if you are still pregnant. Look at finding a therapist, doing yoga, or find another way to manage your own stress levels.

You can get free opinions from lawyers on avvo.com. I hope this helps.
 
WhatToDo said:
I don't want to be insensitive but you went into an open relationship and it didn't work out the way you planned. By all means get a divorce, get child support, get whatever. But alienation of affection? A no contact order for not just you but him as well? Isn't he still living with her!
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I agree with this too.
 
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