For anyone still reading along, I wanted to revisit this:
What are the divorce rates of hetero couples vs gay men? The latter are staggeringly lower.
Women in same-sex marriages are 2-3 times more likely to divorce. Is that "staggering"?
And who has the highest divorce rate of all? Lesbian couples. Again, this is very nuanced, but the numbers point towards a noticeable pattern.
A quick google, and AI says that same-sex marriages are new (and unstudied), but while stats do show that female same-sex marriages end more frequently than those of males, none of the reasons (which are guesses) listed are because of lower libidos.
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I misread this take on statistics of divorce. "RobertitoBull" (living in his mom's basement) typed that MM marriages are (staggeringly) less likely to end in divorce than MF marriages. I had to look this up!
If AI is correct (of course, that's questionable) I see two studies comparing rates of divorce of FF, MM and MF couples.
A 2025 Finnish study found that heterosexual couples had a 21% divorce rate within 10 years of marriage, compared to 40.1% for female couples and 24% for male couples. Societal norms, religious beliefs, and legal issues contribute to the stability of heterosexual unions. The 2025 Finnish study noted a 24% divorce rate for male couples after 10 years, which was a modest increase over the heterosexual rate, but significantly lower than the female couple rate.
A 2021 study by the Williams Institute similarly found that same-sex male couples were about twice as likely to file for divorce as lesbian couples.
These stats directly contradict each other! lol
But as to Robertito's assertion that MM couple's divorce rates were "staggeringly lower" than MF divorce rates, the difference is only 3%. However, the lesbian rate is higher than either other category.
Robert's assertion overall is that men have higher sex drives, leading to the idea that MM couples are happier and more stable because they are having more sex. However, another stat I saw was that lesbians were much more likely to orgasm during sex (in a FF session) than hetero women were to orgasm (in a MF sex session).
Hmm, it almost makes you think sex isn't the only factor in a happy relationship. (Just like wealth and a standard degree of attractiveness are not the only factors.)
One theory is that lesbians seem to commit to committed relationships/marriage more quickly than gay men or cis-het people do, and then live to regret it (the old lesbian UHaul idea). However, I take ALL of these stats with many grains of salt, since non-hetero relationships/marriage are extremely under-studied compared to straight MF relationships, so far.
One more quote from AI/google:
The likelihood of a marriage ending in divorce in the U.S. depends on which marriage it is: roughly 40-43% of first marriages end in divorce, while the rates are significantly higher for subsequent marriages, with around 60% for second marriages and approximately 73% for third marriages. These higher rates are often attributed to bringing unresolved issues, trauma, and unhealthy patterns from previous relationships into the new union.
Even though I specified US MF marriages, I am not sure which community these stats refer to. Let's say it is MF couples. These stats conflict with the Finnish study. Perhaps that's because people over there are less likely to marry at all, compared to US couples. They get enough social protection without marriage, and they are less religious.
