jadzu
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Get out while the getting is good, any way you can. Sounds like a controlling/abusive relationship. No one should have to endure that.
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Get out while the getting is good, any way you can. Sounds like a controlling/abusive relationship. No one should have to endure that.
jadzu
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Natja
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And yet you refer to her as a unicorn... *sigh*
jadzu
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Ok, then does little wife sound any better to you?
And really, you want to focus in on that, instead of supporting the fact that slave-driving poly couples are not the norm? Sure, if you've got the whole Dom/sub thing going, and that's your bag.
At least in our household, our girlfriend/little wife/unicorn/significant other is treated as an equal in all matters, which means there is hope for the damsel in distress, if she hasn't gotten a bad taste in her mouth at this point for the poly lifestyle.
And really, you want to focus in on that, instead of supporting the fact that slave-driving poly couples are not the norm? Sure, if you've got the whole Dom/sub thing going, and that's your bag.
At least in our household, our girlfriend/little wife/unicorn/significant other is treated as an equal in all matters, which means there is hope for the damsel in distress, if she hasn't gotten a bad taste in her mouth at this point for the poly lifestyle.
BoringGuy
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"Little wife" sounds "unequal" too, but if that's your "bag," then hey, roll with it.
The OP of this thread (assuming everything taken at face-value) is dissatisfied with their situation. Whether or not "all poly couples" ("poly couples" is a contradiction-in-terms, and whether anyone agrees does not make it less of a reality) are "this way" or "that way" has nothing to do with this weirdness. "All poly couples" are not incapable of having children the old-fashioned way and do this predatory behaviour. The problem with the OP is not "poly couples," it is a mentally and emotionally unstable female with baby-rabies and a malfunctioned reproductive-organ system.
I wish that humans, females in particular, would get free from this mindless hormonal prison of "aurgh durrr M.U.S.T M.A.K.E M.O.A.R B.A.B.B.Y"
But you can't SAY that. Oh oops. I just did! I guess you CAN say it, after all.
The OP of this thread (assuming everything taken at face-value) is dissatisfied with their situation. Whether or not "all poly couples" ("poly couples" is a contradiction-in-terms, and whether anyone agrees does not make it less of a reality) are "this way" or "that way" has nothing to do with this weirdness. "All poly couples" are not incapable of having children the old-fashioned way and do this predatory behaviour. The problem with the OP is not "poly couples," it is a mentally and emotionally unstable female with baby-rabies and a malfunctioned reproductive-organ system.
I wish that humans, females in particular, would get free from this mindless hormonal prison of "aurgh durrr M.U.S.T M.A.K.E M.O.A.R B.A.B.B.Y"
But you can't SAY that. Oh oops. I just did! I guess you CAN say it, after all.
Natja
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Little wives, at least, do exist!
Natja
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She said that, and we can hope, but she spent so long making excuses to not leave, that it's hard to believe she actually will do it.
BoringGuy
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Anyone who can type with one hand and wash dishes with the other at the same time is a keeper.
Natja
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Whilst crying. Don't forget that.
It is Monday. I hope you are able to get out and make it to a town/a shelter.
No. The "poly-ness" isn't the problem here. It's the health. These people are not healthy people for you to be around. Healthy people (poly or otherwise) do not treat other people this way.
No. The "poly-ness" isn't the problem here. It's the health. These people are not healthy people for you to be around. Healthy people (poly or otherwise) do not treat other people this way.
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BoringGuy
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Meh. I could take it or leave it-- the crying. Anyone can cry just from cutting up onions. It doesn't take any sort of talent or skill.
Dirtclustit
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Perhaps this is why some people get offended.
A person appears to be reaching out for help, trying to identify whether or not they are in an abusive situation, as often their partners have done a sufficiently good job fucking with their head. While it may not be offensive, this was a post on a different topic, there are some situations where respect is always the side to error on, if ever in question.
A person appears to be reaching out for help, trying to identify whether or not they are in an abusive situation, as often their partners have done a sufficiently good job fucking with their head. While it may not be offensive, this was a post on a different topic, there are some situations where respect is always the side to error on, if ever in question.
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BoringGuy
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Someone must have dialed 911 for the Internet Thought Police.
If the OP is really what they claim to be, then I owe them a hefty apology for being wrong. But there are too many things that just don't sound right. Taken one by one, these things could be rationalized and dismissed as anomalous, but all together the discrepancies and details just make me skeptical.
I have seen this happen before on other forums. Someone comes on with a gut-wrenching sob-story that is tailored to a recurring motif on that forum, and the more replies they get, the more outrageous and extreme their situation becomes. These trolls do it to see how much attention and fervor they can generate, and some of them even try to see if people will offer them money to get out of their "desperate" situation. For a time, it seemed to me that that was the direction this was headed in.
I remain unconvinced either way; I still think this has a lot of basic contradictions that cannot be proven or disproven. I mean, I can't prove that a person is incapable of washing dishes while surfing the internet, but if those people JUST got done yelling at the OP to do dishes, wouldn't they be yelling at her to get off the %&$@ internet while washing dishes? And doesn't the water from the dishes ruin the electronic device? I mean, do I have to articulate all this word for word? Something just doesn't seem right with this one.
I repeat, if I am wrong, if the events set forth here are indeed authentic, then I apologize to the OP for my mistake and for any distress my words may have caused.
If the OP is really what they claim to be, then I owe them a hefty apology for being wrong. But there are too many things that just don't sound right. Taken one by one, these things could be rationalized and dismissed as anomalous, but all together the discrepancies and details just make me skeptical.
I have seen this happen before on other forums. Someone comes on with a gut-wrenching sob-story that is tailored to a recurring motif on that forum, and the more replies they get, the more outrageous and extreme their situation becomes. These trolls do it to see how much attention and fervor they can generate, and some of them even try to see if people will offer them money to get out of their "desperate" situation. For a time, it seemed to me that that was the direction this was headed in.
I remain unconvinced either way; I still think this has a lot of basic contradictions that cannot be proven or disproven. I mean, I can't prove that a person is incapable of washing dishes while surfing the internet, but if those people JUST got done yelling at the OP to do dishes, wouldn't they be yelling at her to get off the %&$@ internet while washing dishes? And doesn't the water from the dishes ruin the electronic device? I mean, do I have to articulate all this word for word? Something just doesn't seem right with this one.
I repeat, if I am wrong, if the events set forth here are indeed authentic, then I apologize to the OP for my mistake and for any distress my words may have caused.
kittenkittykat
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First off, I did make it out okay. They have tried several times to reach me, claiming whatever's wrong, we can fix it.
As far as the whole crying, doing dishes and surfing the net goes-- I was on wifi, and my phone has voice/text option to type, and the kitchen was in a different part of the house.
Anyway, all is well and I am safe. Thank you for helping me.
As far as the whole crying, doing dishes and surfing the net goes-- I was on wifi, and my phone has voice/text option to type, and the kitchen was in a different part of the house.
Anyway, all is well and I am safe. Thank you for helping me.
IndieSolo
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Kitty, if you are for real (sorry, but of course you understand, it is impossible to know the truth if no one here has actually met you), then I am very glad and relieved you got away.
Now, stay strong and do not look back! Do not contact them! Look forward toward a better future for yourself with good people. Reach out to your friend and ask him or her to help you find your way. Find resources to get support in the community where you're staying. But do not go back to those awful people, and make sure they don't know where you are.
Now, stay strong and do not look back! Do not contact them! Look forward toward a better future for yourself with good people. Reach out to your friend and ask him or her to help you find your way. Find resources to get support in the community where you're staying. But do not go back to those awful people, and make sure they don't know where you are.
Natja
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Very glad to hear this. Never contact those people again!
Glad you are out.
Don't get sucked back in. I don't know where you landed, but you could look into women's shelter classes. You can attend without living there and perhaps you could benefit from the tips, resources, and healthy relationships classes as you begin to build a new life. Sometimes the support groups are held at libraries, malls, etc.
Especially with the risks of being sucked back in, and separation abuse, shelter pros can tell you what to be on the lookout for. The leaving time is a tricky time. Hang in there.
Don't get sucked back in. I don't know where you landed, but you could look into women's shelter classes. You can attend without living there and perhaps you could benefit from the tips, resources, and healthy relationships classes as you begin to build a new life. Sometimes the support groups are held at libraries, malls, etc.
Especially with the risks of being sucked back in, and separation abuse, shelter pros can tell you what to be on the lookout for. The leaving time is a tricky time. Hang in there.
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