Family style living in poly

I've often thought that having lovers and partners in the same neighborhood within walking distance would be ideal for me. I'm not sure if I want to live with a partner again. It would be lovely being part of a polycule and able to walk to each others homes.
 
Nate is about as interested in living with another man as I am living with another woman. Im very alpha and I need to run my house my way. Nate requires a lot of in house alone time so having additional adults in the house really wouldn't work for him. He also wouldn't want another partner around to seek his attention. Seems like community living wouldn't work foe us if it meant sharing a home. Living in our own home in an intentional community could be cool but our daughters were born in our home so we plan on living in it until we retire and even then we still plan on owning it (it will bw paid off in a few years )

Sam also would not like to live with Nate
 
Communal living among adults can be quite peaceful, but communal parenting of younger children is, in my experience, the seventh circle of hell. Nothing brings out upset, conflict and surprisingly unmoored emotion like parenting. I lived in a cooperative parenting situation in my early twenties and that solidified my vow that if I ever had kids, I'd save the communal everything until they were full grown people.
 
HappilyFallenAngel said:
Communal living among adults can be quite peaceful, but communal parenting of younger children is, in my experience, the seventh circle of hell. Nothing brings out upset, conflict and surprisingly unmoored emotion like parenting. I lived in a cooperative parenting situation in my early twenties and that solidified my vow that if I ever had kids, I'd save the communal everything until they were full grown people.
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Yeah we practice attachment parenting and gentle discipline. We also homeschool and we take a hands off approach with them (not helicopter parenting), I couldn't share parenting responsibilities with people who don't have the same child rearing philosophies.
 
Inyourendo said:
Nate is about as interested in living with another man as I am living with another woman. Im very alpha and I need to run my house my way. Nate requires a lot of in house alone time so having additional adults in the house really wouldn't work for him. He also wouldn't want another partner around to seek his attention. Seems like community living wouldn't work foe us if it meant sharing a home. Living in our own home in an intentional community could be cool but our daughters were born in our home so we plan on living in it until we retire and even then we still plan on owning it (it will bw paid off in a few years )

Sam also would not like to live with Nate
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Same for us, it works on a part time basis but at present I could not see a full time thing happening because I like my private space and having lived with Angel forr 30+ years we know how each other works. Another person or persons would make me feel I lacked personal space, which is how I feel when we have parents or relatives to stay for an extended period. In our case also because of our ages we have very different commitments and resources which would not match.
 
Oh, wow. Lots of personality differences! Considering I don't have any other partners, and Blue is just starting a new relationship with a woman I have yet to meet, it's unlikely communal living is anywhere in our near future. I should clarify, I definitely wasn't thinking of something like the circle house post. Way too much drama for me or Blue! Something lowkey like the V's mentioned. And, I'd definitely want my own space :)
 
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