First public appearance as a V...any advice?

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MsEmotional

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My husband and boyfriend and I are going to a fundraiser together this evening. We will know a few people there. I have prepped one of the friends and asked her to give a heads up to the others in that social circle. Anything else to be aware of? I am already planning to stick by Ponytail a lot, since Glasses knows other people there and Ponytail doesn't. I talked to Glasses about that to make sure he wouldn't feel left out and he said that he'd already expected that I would give more attention to Ponytail this evening and that he was okay with that.
Anything else I should be aware of?
 
Just be confident and give no shits. If you act normal, most other people will to.

I always just split my time between the guys and have fun. People have never commented, and I've only ever noticed a handful of people giving me weird looks. My friends have never cared, some ask questions later, but most just move on since everyone is clearly happy with the relationships. I've never really given people a heads up either. They might figure it out from stories and such but I never waste energy on "coming out" anymore.
 
Hope it went well for you. I assume you weren't met with an angry crowd wielding torches and pitchforks.
 
Well, it actually turned out that Glasses chose to stay back with our older daughter, who was throwing the most massive tantrum just before the event was going to start and he wanted to help her cope.

So basically Ponytail and I went as a couple. We had a great time, and it was fun to be able to hang out with friends that I normally only see when I am with my husband and have them welcome Ponytail. I was bummed that we couldn't all go together, but we will save that for next time and maybe it was for the best that Ponytail got to meet Glasses' friends on his own so that he has his own point of reference with them the next time we all get together.
 
Sounds like things turned out well, I'm glad to hear that.
 
When our V goes out, I ensure that I perform at least one obvious romantic gesture towards each of my partners. None of us enjoy serious "PDAs", but I make sure I hold a hand, caress an arm, something that would be clear to my partner and anyone in the world that I am in a romantic relationship with this person.

We've only been public as a trio for a few weeks, but I can assure that that those simple gestures are noticed. By making it simple and shameless, I've found little resistance and some open acceptance.

I do have some professional situations that I would be concerned about the financial impact of my relationship choices. In those situations, I would either go alone of with my one partner that prefers social connections.
 
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