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Nettle

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Hi all! I am 30+ female, married with two kids. The idea of polyamory is not new to us, and in theory we have been in an open relationship for years. Not in practice though. Neither of us is actively searching for anything, but if something is to happen, that is ok. I do have a major crush on someone right now, but I don't know if it can ever lead to anything. It feels like a good idea to study a bit more anyway.

This seems like a very lovely place to study. I'm amazed how nice answers you people give to everyone. I'll propably just keep on reading for now, but maybe I have something to post some later time.
 
Welcome, Nettle. I've only been here a couple of months myself, but have found everyone to be very welcoming and helpful - with lots of advice and information. If you prefer to lurk for a while but want to find some guidance on specific issues, be sure and check out the search feature - there is a lot of history here, and I've found the search feature very helpful.

Best,

Al
 
Greetings Nettle,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You are probably wise to not just dive headfirst into the poly waters ... Learn as much as you can first. You will find a lot of good information on the various boards, and there are books you can read too, which you'll see mentioned. Don't hesitate to post if you have any questions!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

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If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
Welcome Nettle! I'm glad you've joined us and do hope to see you around posting!
 
Awesome! That is an amazing book!
 
I've been thinking what all of this really means to me. Why does polyamory feel right for me? It always has.

It has more to do with freedom to think, rather than freedom to do. I need to be free to have feelings for other people than just my husband. So far I haven't acted on any of this - the kids are small, when would I have time? But I need to feel that it would be okay.

I am a dreamer. It is hard for me to not love people, to not dream about people. I'm not good at labeling relationships to friends and "more than friends". This kind of distinction doesn't exist in my head, not properly. I don't understand how I could stop seeing people like this.

I'm lucky to have a husband who trusts me in this. Oh well, it's not all luck of course, I chose him well. :D
 
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