Hi everyone. I am Derrick and after reading some posts on this forum I decided to join in and share about myself and my relationships. I believe my journey to this lifestyle first started by an attraction that I developed for older women when I was 15. I had a huge crush on my mom's friend, who were co-workers as nurses. She was always friendly to me and thought I was cute. Like most guys my age I dated girls my age (I lost my virginity when I was 16) but once I turned, 20 made a decision to fulfill that desire I had to have sex with older women. I had no desire to make a serious, long-term commitment to anyone but to enjoy a satisfying friendship with an older lady who wanted a young man to satisfy her sexual needs as well.
Thankfully, the internet offered me the chance to find what I was looking for. I couldn't ignore the attraction that was sparked in me in reading profiles of married women who wanted a younger boytoy to satisfy their needs. I felt more comfortable with those who had husbands that knew and approved them having another sexual partner than those who didn't (I didn't want to deal with anyone who was sneaking around without her husband knowing). Plus I understood and respected the fact that none of these women ever intended to leave their husbands and wouldn't tolerate me attempting to break them up. I never felt offended that married older women were with me just for fun and sex because the feeling was mutual. My fwb P was my first older woman and she showed me what an older woman could do to satisfy a younger man that a women my age and younger could not (Due to the distance that grew between us, I saw a lot less of her after I was her boy toy for almost a year. We are still good friends).
I have been with J for over a year. I have had great fun and sex with my previous partners, but with her things went to another level. In addition, I have gotten along well with her husband (we both are football fanatics). Unlike previous partners, there was a deeper connection with her that developed the more we spent time together. I had no intentions of falling in love during this whole process but my feelings for J only deepened, especially when she was there emotionally for me when I suffered the tragic loss of a cousin in a car accident who was like a brother to me.
Up until those feelings emerged, my preference for older women and belief that they were better partners for me because of their frankness, knowledge and wisdom, sexuality, confidence and attitude had truly been confirmed by my personal experience and what I read in boos. Now, with how things have developed between J and I, I cannot deny the fact that the love that can exist between an older woman and younger man is incredible and something I want even though we had no intentions of looking for it. I value the respect I have earned B because of how I have treated and adored his wife as well as the fact I have respected their marriage in the way they wanted it to be respected.
I have some unchartered territory to travel here. Will I move in with them? Will I take control more in their home?. Hubby is more on the submissive side to his wife and I fulfill her desire to have a man in her life with a more dominant side which is another key reason why we all get along together. Will there be some kind of "marriage" to J in the near future? I am not sure. Hopefully, I will make the best decisions on my end that will end up in everyone staying content and happy in this situation. I know I may have rambled, but I hope I make sense. Looking forward to the comments and insight that I will get here from everyone.
Thankfully, the internet offered me the chance to find what I was looking for. I couldn't ignore the attraction that was sparked in me in reading profiles of married women who wanted a younger boytoy to satisfy their needs. I felt more comfortable with those who had husbands that knew and approved them having another sexual partner than those who didn't (I didn't want to deal with anyone who was sneaking around without her husband knowing). Plus I understood and respected the fact that none of these women ever intended to leave their husbands and wouldn't tolerate me attempting to break them up. I never felt offended that married older women were with me just for fun and sex because the feeling was mutual. My fwb P was my first older woman and she showed me what an older woman could do to satisfy a younger man that a women my age and younger could not (Due to the distance that grew between us, I saw a lot less of her after I was her boy toy for almost a year. We are still good friends).
I have been with J for over a year. I have had great fun and sex with my previous partners, but with her things went to another level. In addition, I have gotten along well with her husband (we both are football fanatics). Unlike previous partners, there was a deeper connection with her that developed the more we spent time together. I had no intentions of falling in love during this whole process but my feelings for J only deepened, especially when she was there emotionally for me when I suffered the tragic loss of a cousin in a car accident who was like a brother to me.
Up until those feelings emerged, my preference for older women and belief that they were better partners for me because of their frankness, knowledge and wisdom, sexuality, confidence and attitude had truly been confirmed by my personal experience and what I read in boos. Now, with how things have developed between J and I, I cannot deny the fact that the love that can exist between an older woman and younger man is incredible and something I want even though we had no intentions of looking for it. I value the respect I have earned B because of how I have treated and adored his wife as well as the fact I have respected their marriage in the way they wanted it to be respected.
I have some unchartered territory to travel here. Will I move in with them? Will I take control more in their home?. Hubby is more on the submissive side to his wife and I fulfill her desire to have a man in her life with a more dominant side which is another key reason why we all get along together. Will there be some kind of "marriage" to J in the near future? I am not sure. Hopefully, I will make the best decisions on my end that will end up in everyone staying content and happy in this situation. I know I may have rambled, but I hope I make sense. Looking forward to the comments and insight that I will get here from everyone.