Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

Well, my daughter didn't end up being able to donate blood with me after all; she didn't weigh enough. It was ridiculous. I guess the cutoff is 117, and that's what she weighs. If she waits a year, at age 19 the weight cutoff is 110. I'm like, what? That makes zero sense. Whatever. She ate Oreos while I donated and didn't seem too upset. She isn't underweight for her height at all. Her iron was really good too, but I guess we will wait.

I ended up spending part of my evening with PunkRock - we went out to the Indian place we had gone to for our Valentine's date. Yum! Then we split up and he spent the evening doing whatever men do in the basement mancave lol. I read half of my book club book before heading over to WarMan's at 9. I was still feeling weak from the blood donation, so we talked and snuggled. No sexy times until this morning. It was a good idea to wait, for real. It was really awesome, though I actually hurt my wrist a bit. I tweaked it trying to sit up when my hands were in these fuzzy cuffs. I couldn't get my balance, and it turned my left hand wonky. I am sure it will be fine but it is kinda hurty still.

I held my Chem class today and oh boy! The math was horrible. These kids - as homeschoolers, I never know who has had what level and it was scary bad. I think we made progress but I am personally terrified to see these quizzes back. Sigh.

DarkKnight had practice tonight, so WarMan and PunkRock played Betrayal at House on the Hill with me. I had a good time - WarMan ended up being the traitor and he wished a dragon into being which murdered my character and eventually destroyed WarMan too. What a jerkface! :) Then we followed that with Forbidden Desert, which we all won. So it was good.

I had separate talks with all 3 of my guys and as pairings as well, about WarMan moving in. WarMan proposed a new room configuration that might work really well. We've decided to think about it. We have some time, anyway. Apparently though, my son did see a really nice apartment today so he is pretty stoked about it. He has 3 more apartments to look at tomorrow and he seems motivated and positive.

Oh! I have to share! I went to the courthouse today! The trip itself was a clusterfuck, but I picked up paperwork for my name change! I'm going to swap my current middle name for PunkRock's last name. I am so very excited and bubbly about this. I completed the paperwork and I have the $165 fee, but what sucks is I have to go get a $15 money order because they need a copy of every record that ever changed my name. This means my marriage certificate for my ex-husband. Fuck. So, I am going to get that tomorrow. I have the form request filled out and in the envelope with a stamp and that sucker is going in the mail ASAP! That will obviously cause a wait, but it's ok. Rather than be down about it, I'm just getting it done and hopefully they have a quick turnaround on things, so I can go down and actually file for the change. The clerk said I might not have to pay a publication fee since it is just a middle name change and I hope that is the case! If I don't, I just have to wait for the judge to sign off on it and mail it back to me - I probably won't have to appear at all. Whoo hoo! I am really hoping it gets finished before our first wedding anniversary!
 
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I was so happy to have a day off today! Haha, silly me! I ordered groceries this morning and then decided to surprise DarkKnight by cleaning his bedroom. He just left a short bit to get us lunch, so he doesn't know yet. :) My to do list is nuts now, this be started after eating!

I need to color my hair - it's so bad right now, I look old. So, hair color, followed by a shower. Then I am off to Sam's Club and the bank, and when I return there is a huge pile of paperwork to slog through. We got DarkKnight's insurance settlement a bit ago but I haven't had time to pay all the outstanding medical bills. All the ones that were getting snippy have been paid but there are still a few I need to pay off. I am also teaching tonight - I have two kids coming over at 5 pm for extra math help and one needs to make up the density lab from yesterday. So I kinda need to make up some density worksheets to help them out.
 
So, I got my hair dye clothes on and everything yesterday, only to discover I only had developer. So my hair still is impossible. I did manage to find time to stop at the store and buy some color in the afternoon, but there was no time after that to take care of things. I am hoping to squeeze in time this morning, but for some reason I'm awake at 4:30, so I will prolly fall back asleep and wake up late. Sigh.

My 5 pm chemistry class went really really well last night. It went for 2 hours, so it delayed my dinner out with DarkKnight. It was worth it though - the kids who showed up for extra math help left feeing better about their abilities. I felt better about things too, lol. The dinner was worth waiting for too - DarkKnight and I both were starving by the time we got seated and everything was delicious.

I have been so horny lately, but I don't seem to be in sync with any of my guys. When I want it, they're not available. And when they are available, we have somewhere to go or something to do other than have sex. It's making me crazy.

Today, WarMan is supposed to be at my house at 10 am and we're taking a drive down to Alexandria, Virginia. We are finally going to use the Escape Room tickets I bought him for Christmas. I am excited and I think he is too. I hope it's fun - it's a 2 hour drive.
 
I'm sitting here sideways, in the recliner in my bedroom, watching the clock while I wait for my hair color to set. Finally! Right? So anyway, I have a minute - or 30 - to spare to write in here. :)

Um, I got my period this morning. One week early again. I actually felt myself ovulate last Wednesday, so this was very unexpected. Fuck. Actually, this makes WarMan happy because I was scheduled to get it while at the hotel in New Mexico - I will definitely be all done by then. But, dammit, my cycle is quite wonky lately.

Today is busy - my youngest has a dental appointment at 11:40, and then I am hosting game club for kids at 1:30. We have 9 children on the roster, so I am splitting the group for some games. Uh, today we have Pie Face, Pandemic with the On the Brink expansion, Once Upon a Time, and maybe I will squeeze in the new deck I just bought - We Didn't Playtest This At All. After game club I have to run my daughter to her driving lesson, DarkKnight to his play practice, and I have a homeschooling group meeting. Then I have to go and pick everybody up again. I canceled my date night with WarMan, but we switched it til Wednesday. He leaves for New Mexico Thursday morning, so that will be good.

So, the trip to Alexandria on Saturday was good, overall. The shops were fun and I bought an owl plate for my older daughter and a bracelet for me, along with two Christmas ornaments. The Escape Room event was a blast and I am looking forward to doing another one on Sunday. Here's a picture of me and WarMan in wizard hats:

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Basically we were in a room with a bunch of strangers tasked to find the missing wizard. We had one hour. The strangers all worked together and it was supposed to be a team building exercise for them. That was funny, because at the end, both WarMan and I agreed that they were impossible as a unit and they were in no way a cohesive group. We also agree that we would have had more fun if we had bought out the room and we won't do the game again without doing that. They were seriously drunk and some of them were just plain dumb. We still managed to win, but damn. But, the theme was well put together, the props and storyline were authentic seeming, and the puzzles were good. I am excited to do the one on Sunday with WarMan's kids. We did already buy out the room, so no worries there.

We did have a rather major hiccup at the beginning of our day together - the ride over was fine, but upon arriving, we stopped in a decent looking place for lunch. It ended up being disappointing in terms of price and food, and WarMan picked a fight with me while there. He might balk at that terminology, but I have no other words to really explain what happened.

Out of nowhere he told me that a message I had sent him the day before had him feeling pressured about moving in. I was like, uh, ok, that was a joke, and not at all my intention, sorry. (He had said he was horny, I replied that if he was living at my house he'd be balls deep already.) He continued saying that he was feeling uncomfortable and worried and everything else he had said the week prior. We had already had this conversation, and I felt blindsided and attacked, because of his tone and how quick he was to jump on me not wanting to talk about it again.

We were out for a pleasant day date, we were in a quiet restaurant and the people across from us were staring. He got agitated and I got weepy. I kept telling him that we shouldn't talk about this now and he said I reminded him of his ex wife always wanting to dodge discussions and run away when discussing difficult things. I told him I didn't mind talking about it again, just not there and then. He finally let it drop, but I didn't eat any of my lunch and I felt out of sorts until we started the escape room event and didn't have to concentrate on my unhappiness any more.

After the game, we walked up the street and I pulled him over to sit in a private alcove in front of a courthouse. There we were able to discuss things again. I told him I honestly had been cracking a joke the other day, that I wouldn't do it again since he was having issues with that, and that honestly, I had zero desire to even have him live with me if it was going to be this much of an issue for him. I don't want to live with someone who doesn't want to be there. Like, what's the fucking point? But my understanding was that 1) he had told me last Monday in our conversation that he was decided that he was moving in and 2) he had said on Thursday that in fact he had came up with a completely new idea about reconfiguring rooms in the house that made great sense for everyone and people were jazzed about it 3) At no time since then had he given me any indication that he wasn't ok with me joking about that topic, or any topic oh, and 4) I had not said that I wouldn't talk about it, just that I resented being put on the spot in public, out of nowhere, on a date I was hoping to be special and fun for us.

So yeah. Things are worked out now. He apologized and was pretty emotional about how scared he is of changing anything, for fear of me figuring out about the real him, and me not wanting to be in a relationship any more. I told him if I don't know the real him, then I'm not even in a relationship.

The rest of the day was good after that.

I do love this guy something wonderful. Honestly though, he is so very scared of having another failed relationship - it worries me. I don't intend to break up, but he's so emotionally afraid of not being successful. I don't want that sort of anxiety for anyone, much less for someone I love so much.

At this point, my son has yet to turn in a single application for an apartment so him being out my March 1 is not looking good for his move out date.

Yesterday while I was at D&D, WarMan and PunkRock hung out and built terrain for WarMachine, and I guess they talked about some heavy topics - including WarMan moving in. I guess it went ok. It wasn't planned or anything. WarMan feels ok about, and at dinner last night PunkRock seemed ok about it, so I guess things are ok?

Sigh. Time to rinse my head.
 
Chemistry today - in about an hour. I just want to curl up in bed and get snuggles, but there is no one here to do it with me and well, the kids will be here soon. Sigh.

PunkRock has his regular day off today, and he came to kiss me when I got out of the shower this morning. He was on his way out to a dental appointment. When he gets back, he's going to take my youngest to practice her 2 and 3 point turns.

DarkKnight is working downstairs in his office. I was horny this morning and he helped me out with Mr. Buzzy when he was on break. Then he made me a ham and cheese melt for lunch. Pretty sweet!

WarMan has been texting with me off and on this morning. I wish he were here to give me some kisses.

Sigh. Today is kinda meh. I need to make some time to do paperwork, as always. I don't really want to do it though.
 
Why am I so awake?! Ugh.

PunkRock had his bottom two wisdom teeth yanked out yesterday and when his alarm went off at 4 am a short while ago, he was burning up with fever. He's had two doses of Amoxycillin, yesterday, and he arose and took another, along with some Advil. I had him call into work. This made sense as he's also due to have his stitches removed from his wrist injury today. He's snoring away now,but I can still feel the heat radiating from him. Normally all my guys make good space heaters, but this is another level. He kept telling me he was freezing and shaking a bit. So yeah, not good. I hope the ibuprofen works.
 
OMG Worst day ever. WarMan and I got like 4 hours of sleep, tops, before he had to hit the road to catch his flight to New Mexico this morning. We were scattered, and I ended up leaving my purse in his car. Normally this wouldn't be an issue, but - last sentence. He was leaving for New Mexico! So now my purse is in his car, locked in an off-airport parking lot. It has my ID and my debit card. I kinda need both of those to live, not to mention catch my own flight to New Mexico on Sunday. Sigh.

So, I was frazzled this morning. I met up with Monkey, since she had a key to WarMan's apartment, which is home to his second car key. So I now have both of those in my possession. WarMan kept trying to give me his house key, but I was like, for what? Sigh. Now on Saturday PunkRock is going to drive me up to Baltimore to look for the car so I can catch my plane Sunday. I really don't want to go to Baltimore twice but I have zero choice.

The other wonderful thing today is that I finally had my mouth worked on. That was sarcasm, by the way! The edge of my lower Invisalign tray cut up my gum line and caused recession of the tissue, and it was like this lumpy gum bump under a lower tooth. So the dentist used a laser to cut the excess away, and shave off the outer layer of tissue. I can not explain how horrible this felt when the Novocain wore off. I have been taking Advil like crazy! The dentist told me it will hurt for a long time. Thanks. Blowjob week is officially over.
 
My mouth is feeling a tad better but only because I am keeping current with pain meds. It looks much better today too.

I spent the morning with my daughter, out shopping for my son's new apartment. Then I had to go to my therapy appointment. I think things are going well there - we had a good discussion outlining what my first priority will be, which will be working on my ability to receive presents and compliments, and trying to figure out how to deal with what has caused this. I feel optimistic. True story - I discovered today that my therapist is actually Mormon, which is the religion that WarMan left a decade ago. Crazy.

After therapy, I met up with my daughter and PunkRock and 3 of our kitties were at the vet. Stormy and Stuart had a sleepover and we brought ColePorter home after he was neutered.

PunkRock and I had dinner at Karu Peru - yummy - and saw Deadpool together. This was his first time seeing it, and my second.

I am missing WarMan an awful lot. He sent me an email today that I need to print out and send to his rental company, giving a notice to terminate his lease. He's nervous about it, but he asked me to help him with it. So that's on my to-do list tomorrow morning, first thing.

One thing I wanted to write about tonight though is that Monkey is apparently upset and angry at WarMan right now. She says she didn't know I was going to meet his family this weekend. WarMan told me this, and also that he does think he told her. She's just focused on her mom and not listening to him. Plus, we planned this trip before her mom got sick. Anyway, she isn't talking to him and she's angry. I am not sure why? I don't know if it's because she feels hurt just that he didn't share that information and she feels left out, or if it is that she didn't get to discuss that it was a bad idea,and she wanted to stop him from having it happen? I can understand the former, because I would be hurt if he didn't share important news like that with me. But hurt and disappointed is not the same as upset and angry. I am confused by that reaction. I am hoping though that it isn't the latter, because angry is not the emotion I would feel there either - I would think worried and concerned would be better terms.

So yeah, I don't know what is going on there. I know her mom isn't doing any better, so maybe it's just displaced anger from that situation.

All I know is that I am getting a little more nervous about meeting WarMan's family, and I am SUPER STRESSING about what to wear.

Maybe Monkey is angry because she never had the opportunity to be presented to WarMan's parents as a dating partner, and wishes she could? I feel like I am grasping here, trying to figure it out. Honestly though, I guess it doesn't matter - not my circus. I'm sorry her emotions are upsetting to WarMan, but as she hasn't expressed anything to me, my speculations are all just that. However, this sort of thing sucks.
 
I am at the airport in Baltimore and awaiting the time to board my flight. What a crazy time I had getting here! It was nuts because the key I snagged from WarMan's apartment earlier was NOT the key to his car. It was the key to his old car, the one he doesn't have anymore. I discovered this yesterday when PunkRock drove me up to retrieve my purse. Fucking lovely, worthless drive. We had to go back to WarMan's apartment and I did manage to find the correct key. No problems this morning using it. :)

Last night after my drive to Baltimore and back, DarkKnight and I spent some time together with his theater friends. We went to see a performance of The Yellow Boat, which was an amazing little show that left us all in tears. We followed that up with pretzel pizza at a restaurant in town. I got home a little before 11 pm and tore my closet apart trying to figure out an outfit for today. Soon I had my bag packed and off to bed I went. :)

I am nervous about meeting WarMan's family, but I am confident that I am fabulous, no matter how they feel about my relationship structure.
 
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It's 6 am on Tuesday and WarMan and I are snuggled up on the hotel suite couch. His back is a mess and my mouth is hurting SO VERY MUCH, so here we are, both very tired but very awake.

My trip to ABQ has been awesomesauce. I met WarMan with his two kids right off the plane, and they were interested in me and talking to me right away. I think we bonded over teasing WarMan and each other - my regular sassiness helped here. It was really really interesting to watch this other side of WarMan come out. I only knew him as a long distance dad who worries constantly about whether he is doing a good job staying connected. It was amazing to see his dynamic with his children - there is so much love and mutual respect there. His kids are very much loved, and they know it.

I feel more confident about telling him now that his anxiety is getting the best of him, when it comes up in the future.

Anyway, the Escape Room experience was fun. We lost, but there were ever so many more puzzles in this particular game. They had a lower budget but it was much more difficult. Actually, some of the clues were far and disconnected from each other - trying to connect the dots was hard. I feel we made a good showing. :)

Dinner with WarMan's parents though - yeesh! First off, we went to a super cool and super busy Brazilian restaurant. You pay one price and load up your plates with side dishes at a buffet, and then waiters come around with giant skewers of various meat offerings, and cut off hunks on your plates. The music was really loud there too - which apparently WarMan planned, as his son has misophonia, and he wanted to minimize his stress. So, right off the start, the location was very poor for conversation, and for a first meeting it was almost impossible to discuss anything.

WarMan and I sat directly across from his parents, and I was immediately struck that there was zero chance of his mom liking me at all. She reminded me of DarkKnight's mom - just from a generation with a mindset that Anything different is wrong. Add in the religious bit, and there's just no way she will ever approve of me. She was quiet but didn't offer up any conversation except when I or WarMan asked her questions.

WarMan's dad was more open and friendly. I think I would get along with him. His whole demeanor was more welcoming and interested in me as a person. Unfortunately, the setting being what it was, all of our conversational topics died quickly because of not being able to hear, or from interruptions from the waiter asking if we wanted some meat.

I guess the meeting was a success in that no one was rude to each other but I wouldn't call it wonderful. It was kinda like - hey, here's what my girlfriend looks like, and now we gotta go. WarMan is happy how it went, so there's that, I guess. He says it doesn't matter how it went but that the initial greeting is now over and thats all that needed to happen. I don't know, I kinda wanted to feel seen and understood, as impossible as that goal probably was. But I suppose it's good that at least everyone was civil.

WarMan sent out an email thanking his parents for coming and they both responding saying thanks and it was good to catch up. No comments on me at all. WarMan's son said he had a lot of fun. WarMan's daughter said that I was cool. Lol I guess I will take all that and just be content.

After the dinner, WarMan's kids left with his parents and we went back to the hotel and had I missed you like crazy cakes sex.

Yesterday was a good time - he showed me around Albuquerque and hit some of the touristy spots. We went to a shop called Mama's Minerals and zi bought myself a bracelet and a gift for PunkRock. Then we walked around Old Town the rest of the morning, where I bought gifts for everyone else in my family. We had a delicious lunch at the best Mexican restaurant ever. Oh - that was a bit of a downer in that WarMan started expressing insecurities about whether I would be happier touring ABQ with one of my husbands, and that he just isn't very interesting and he's boring. This hurt my feelings, because up until then I was having a blast sightseeing with him, and to think that he thought I wasn't enjoying myself made me feel sad.

We decided to go take a ride on the Sandia Tramway after lunch - oh my goodness why I agreed I have no idea! I am terrified of heights and this climbs to the top of a mountain peak over 10,000 feet above sea level! I was seriously freaking out - more so on the way down though - but it did give me a chance to trust WarMan to keep me safe, and he did a great job of letting me cling to him when zi felt especially afraid of dying.

The view was absolutely spectacular too, so that made it worth the horrible phobic feeling I get when I feel like I am going to plunge almost 4,000 feet out of a tram car onto rocks below.

We decided to go back to the hotel afterward and ended up ordering in dinner because both of us were falling apart physically - his back was really bad, and the pain in my face was a constant stabbing. Plus, you know, we're old and tired. Lol We talked some about his struggle with Monkey right now, with her not talking to him again, and then about our own relationship. I ended up pulling up this journal and reading aloud my entries about when I first met him. It gave me the warm fuzzies but he articulated again that he wished I had felt lightning and that none of his partners ever feel that. It's always a slow build of attraction. I didn't think it was so slow for me, but I can't help how he feels about it. All I know is that I did like him, was attracted to him and then fell head over heels quickly. I don't think I would change that. I liked how I fell in love with him.

So, in a half hour here we are supposed to get up and function. We've got to shower and pack this place up! Our plane leaves a little after 1 pm, so we are going to head over to the Nuclear Science museum this morning when it opens at 9 am and try to get through that before the flight. When we land in Baltimore it'll be 6 pm. I am anxious about what I am missing today - my daughter is taking her driver's test and my son is moving out. Can't be helped, but zi hope it all goes well there!
 
Glad you're having a good trip. I went to ABQ for a romance readers/authors convention about 3 years ago and loved it. We went to Old Town as part of the convention, and I bought a pair of earrings, I'm pretty sure at the same store you mention.
 
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I ended up pulling up this journal and reading aloud my entries about when I first met him. It gave me the warm fuzzies but he articulated again that he wished I had felt lightning and that none of his partners ever feel that. It's always a slow build of attraction. I didn't think it was so slow for me, but I can't help how he feels about it. All I know is that I did like him, was attracted to him and then fell head over heels quickly. I don't think I would change that. I liked how I fell in love with him.
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The "lightning" thing is super rare for everyone, I think! I've only felt it once, ever, and it was with a relationship that didn't even end up amounting to much. As long as there is some attraction, it usually will grow to falling in love if you're otherwise compatible, and that's what matters. Lighting doesn't mean much.
 
Nuclear Science Museum! Very interesting place. I hope you enjoy it.
 
Odd that WarMan thinks your relationship escalated into love slowly. I remember thinking that you two had gone from zero to 100 mph in no seconds flat! To me, it seemed like you two had connected almost instantly and were talking about how much you wanted him in your life... right away, after only a couple dates! I believe I had even posted to both your blog threads that you might want to slow down, LOL! I guess when he is in self-critical mode, his perspective shifts into seeing everything he does/says/is as not good enough.
 
Well, yesterday morning was kind of odd. I had a semi-serious discussion with WarMan about who and when I had dated people other than WarMan and PunkRock. None of it was new information, but he paid closer attention than previously. He seemed agitated about my play parties and swinging foray but ultimately said that we just operate differently when it comes to sex and love. I found that statement a little offensive, even though it may be/is true. It's all good though.

We packed up and I went down to breakfast, since WarMan had some things to take care of in the room. When he joined me, he seemed distant and upset and I thought this was a continuation of our previous conversation. It turns out, however, that Monkey had been messaging him and things had been progressing toward ugly. She was very, very angry and upset that I had gone to Albuquerque with him. Unfortunately, since this, things have gotten worse between them and not improved in the slightest.

She has been giving him the silent treatment off and on, and then coming back and being vague about what she's been doing. This is distressing to WarMan, because in the past they have always been open about things. Now she is telling him that she thinks it would be better if they are no longer "intimate friends" because he obviously can't be trusted to tell her important details of his life or consider her emotions when making decisions.

Obviously, this is causing WarMan great distress. He feels she is being very unfair and deliberately obtuse and hurtful toward him, to punish him for taking me to meet his family. I feel like I am at a loss at what to do because there isn't anything I can do. Her comment that WarMan doesn't consider her emotions angers me a great deal, because I don't think there is anyone besides me who he DOES have so much consideration toward. He loves her and cares about her and tries to keep her happy, every single day.

I will write more later, as it has gotten late. I started this waaaay earlier and got distracted.
 
I have no idea. I can guess though. I believe there is a combination of things going on. There was a time - a great deal of time - where Monkey was WarMan's sole emotional support and only confidante. WarMan considers her his longest lasting relationship. When he fell in love with me, Monkey became very jealous and threatened by that. Her time spent with WarMan was cut in half, and for once in their long history, he was very happy. This was new.

Right now, she is under a tremendous amount of stress and at one of the lowest points in her life. Her marriage isn't what she wants, her mother is in the hospital with a terminal illness, she is the sole person working in her household - and it's just for minimum wage, when a year ago her husband was bringing home six figures with 5 figure bonuses - so it's a clusterfuck. At the same time, WarMan has never been happier. He says that he treads very carefully to not appear joyful, and minimizes his emotions to be sensitive to her situation.

Previously he had told her that he wasn't sure if he was going to take me to meet his parents, because they just aren't an important factor in his life. Plus, they weren't ever going to be supportive anyway. She's upset that he changed his mind without discussing it with her, because in the past, he would have. WarMan says he thinks he may have mentioned it, but she was so caught up in her own life drama that it was glossed over. The last couple of months, he's been sad because with her work schedule, their limited time has been much less, and lots of their visits consist of her sleeping on the couch next to him. Or she's distraught and he is comforting her. The focus has been on her life and her problems.

If you'll remember, I told him at a couple points that I felt their relationship was bleeding over into ours and that I didn't want to hear about all of her issues. He really does think about her situation a lot and he absolutely focuses on her emotions and feelings.

Anyway, she told him she feels like I bullied him into taking me to New Mexico. He says that he never told her that I wouldn't ever meet his children, just not his parents. But it was something he was thinking over. I certainly didn't bully him! I told him I would like to, but there was no rush. He had been saying his kids might come over during the summer, so it would be helpful if they had a chance to meet me prior to that. And when I did go, you can see it was a short visit, timed carefully to make sure the trip was focused more on him and his kids than on meeting me.

Anyway, it was a positive visit, and WarMan says he was really happy that after all those years of traveling alone, that he had me there with him. And that he definitely wants me to go again.

Sigh. So to get back on track, I think there are a lot of things going on. I believe that Monkey is really jealous, really depressed and doesn't know how to approach a WarMan who is happy. I think she has taken him for granted for a very long time, to the point where everything he does for her is unappreciated and just expected. Her main upset that she is owning at the moment though, is that he kept the trip a secret from her and friends wouldn't do that. He tells her yeah, that's why it WASN'T a secret. Her and I have Facebook friends in common, one in particular who would absolutely tell her everything I posted. So there is zero chance of it ever staying a secret, since I would be posting photos and updates about my trip. That should be a clue that he wasn't trying to hide anything. But she's latched on to the idea that it was purposeful and that she doesn't want to be friends with someone who is hiding things.

There is more crazy, because I agree - this is crazy - but At the moment I can't remember it because I just woke up.
 
To get back to my trip to NM, the morning of my last day there had me juggling a depressed and worried WarMan. He apologized a lot, but he couldn't help being upset. I don't blame him for that. Anyway, we quick left the hotel and went to visit the Nuclear Science and History Museum.

Oh my gosh - THAT was awesome. WarMan had been there previously, but when it was a small building. We actually went to the wrong location - it had moved to a huge building with an outdoor section as well, since he had last visited. That actually made me happy, because then we were exploring it new, together. I would definitely recommend it has a must-see, if anyone is ever in Albuquerque. I am looking forward to going again in the future!

We had just 2 hours to go through the museum before having to catch our flight. We managed it, barely, and had an hour in the airport to get some lunch. When not focused on the museum exhibits, WarMan once again fell into melancholy and was distant. Our flight was delayed, but once we got into the air, we talked a lot about things and spent time just cuddling - we were able to share a row of seats, even though it was a full flight.

He dropped me off at home and he headed out. Everyone was really happy to have me back, but I have felt pulled a million different ways. My son has moved out and I spent a good section of yesterday at his apartment, helping him get things sorted. Not much progress though, as we had to go shopping some. Like, his dishes were unpacked and my daughter started washing them, but we discovered he had no shelf liners, so that was abandoned because we couldn't put them away. Lots of stuff like that. So, helping my son was a priority. I also had a Meet and Greet scheduled for our homeschool group - new member stuff. Since I am the outgoing Welcome Wagon person, it was important that I be there. So I woke up needing to make a few dozen turkey sandwiches to take to the event, and then I had to be present there for a couple of hours.

I spent a great deal of time connecting with my daughter and talking about her plans - she passed her driver's test on the first go while I was away! She is ALWAYS a priority.

DarkKnight is in the middle of tech week for his play - it opens Friday night - so he is distressed. He is a 9 pm in bed sort of person and when he has to stay up late he gets weepy. It's just how his body reacts to a lack of sleep. Well, he's not getting home until after 11 pm and he needs comfort and support from me. I actually was home for a couple of hours before he arrived back from the theater on Tuesday. He looked exhausted and just wanted hugs and comfort before heading to bed. I spent some time yesterday - what time I had - making him feel calmer. We had lunch together at home, where he was able to share all of his current feelings. Tonight I will have a much-needed overnight with him.

Tuesday night I was with PunkRock and he was a little bit agitated with DarkKnight. Usually they look out for each other, but I think PunkRock considers DarkKnight's current emotional state completely his own fault and is less likely to want to feel bad for him! He was annoyed that I had to wait up for DarkKnight to get home, because then we were unable to have sex or a strong snuggle time, because I had to focus on DarkKnight. PunkRock had to be up at his regular 4 am, so by the time I was able to see DarkKnight and say goodnight, it was way past PunkRock's needed bedtime.

And then of course, since I was so busy yesterday, I had hardly any time with him then either. I did manage to squeeze in an hour to jump his bones, but we both agreed that it was hard to change gears and be sexual, because though both of us wanted it, we were both focused greatly on everything else going on.

So I think that catches me up until today. I spent the night last night at WarMan's, and I have to get up soon and shower. I have my Chemistry class at 1 pm, and after that I have to go grocery shopping for my son and then we are going to meet up and do some more unpacking.
 
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Chemistry went well yesterday, and I am for some reason up super early, so I decided to prep for today's lab. Some of the shipped chemicals for this lab were in a separate bag, and they somehow combined and I opened it to a liquid splashing out on my hands. Lovely. This was supposed to be separate vials with a powder substance in each one, so I was surprised, for sure. I washed off immediately, but I have an itchy patch on my right pointer finger. I think I will live, but ugh. I already sent out an email requesting a replacement kit. Normally I wouldn't bother, but one of my students is missing class today, and this way I'll get a new one next week that he can use to make up the lab. So I guess that is a bonus.

I have a to-do list for today that is a mile long. Game night last night was canceled due to my son's apartment being a mess. I spent a good deal of time there yesterday after class, but didn't accomplish much. My daughter and I had more shopping to do - I guess we did get things done! There are groceries in his place now, and we unpacked some more kitchen stuff. We bought him a new bookcase and some storage containers.

Both DarkKnight and PunkRock assisted him in moving out his huge dinosaur of a TV and his extra TV stand. Why he decided moving them up to this tiny apartment was a good idea, I have no clue! But down they came, but they took so long, that by the time everything got loaded, the Salvation Army was closed. So both my son and PunkRock have crap in their car that they will need to drop off today. If the volunteer organization doesn't want it, we'll bring it back to my garage, and I will take pictures and put it on craigslist for free. If it isn't gone next week, I'll have my son pay the garbage company to haul it off. That's my plan. lol

I took my son's empty boxes to WarMan's house, and he brought over his kitchen table set - he won't need it at my place. My son was expecting to pay him for it, but WarMan gifted it instead. That was really sweet. I hope to make a trip over to the apartment this morning and do a quick check on some things, then do some more shopping as well.

WarMan is just in the dumps about Monkey. Things have not improved and he thinks they will be just done. She seems to want to downgrade their relationship to just activity partner friends, but WarMan is unsure if he can do that. They were really super close and wanting to be sexual at one time, but her husband wouldn't allow it, so he has already changed his feelings for her previously. To now try to shut it down further - he isn't sure if he could. I honestly think he should let it die. The way this is unfolding is awful and unkind and I believe she is being childish. Honestly, I think she is just blowing up every aspect of her life, so she can leave and start over.

To say that this development is leaching over into our relationship would be an understatement. I absolutely don't blame WarMan - he is depressed, and rightfully so. He told me last night that he is afraid that he'll be this way for an extended time, and that I will eventually not want to tolerate his sadness any longer. I told him I definitely was not new to grief work and this is still really fresh. Honestly I would be more surprised if he had a short period of sadness - he's been a close friend of Monkey's for 13 years. That sort of thing doesn't just disappear from a heart overnight. And besides, the drama is still happening - he told her to take time to think it over. So this could drag out. I could see myself being impatient about that, if they keep stringing things along and he keeps allowing her to treat him poorly.
 
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Today was a busy day - DarkKnight and I took ColePorter, our foster kitten, to the humane society clinic in the morning. ColePorter is now microchipped and we are awaiting paperwork so he can have his rabies shot. Then we can adopt him. :) After the clinic, DarkKnight and I played D&D with our group and then went to our weekly WarMachine night. I actually got to play against PunkRock - and I won - which was great because I haven't played against him in a loooong time. PunkRock, DarkKnight and I then went out to dinner at Karu Peru around 9 pm.

I'm home now with a sleepover with DarkKnight. We just had sexy times and I'm about ready for bed!

Tomorrow morning I have an early dental appointment, unfortunately. My bottom retainer cracked and I need to get fitted for a fake tooth in the new one they ordered for me. After that, I'll be rushing around for groceries, as PunkRock and I leave - with my daughter - to go on vacation for the week at Great Wolf Lodge. I am excited to go again for the third year in a row! I'm actually not packed yet since today was so hectic, as was the week. So at some point I will need to do that as well! I am really looking forward to relaxing - I have a couple's massage planned for PunkRock and I again, so that should be amazing.

WarMan was at WarMachine tonight but I didn't get to see him much. We had a sleepover last night, and after he dropped me off this morning he went over to see Monkey. He told me later that they had a talk and laid some ground rules or decided on appropriate discussion topics between the two of them from this point forward? I am assuming that means he isn't going to talk about me to her anymore? I dunno. We didn't have time to catch up. He did tell me that he shared that he is moving in with me.

Anyway, at WarMachine, when we were wrapping up, WarMan kissed me and then said he had to leave immediately. He's not explained what was going on, and he left all his laundry at my house, actually! So I am not sure what is up with that. I was disappointed though, since I was hoping to have some snuggle time before I left for the week. He says everything is fine.
 
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