Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

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I don't know why so far I've only uploaded photos of Jambi, but here's another one. He actually keeps his distance from me and so I don't have any attachment to him yet. He is crazy about my daughter though!
 
I think I already have a home for one of them, in western NY. Will travel to deliver! :)
 
Today is my first intro class of the semester for Astronomy. I am excited to teach this class again and even happier that I have 2 completely full classes of kiddos. Since today is only the intro class where we talk about the structure and expectations, and then set up their materials, it will be quick. I am hoping to have most of the afternoon free to finish painting one of my WarMachine models and to work on modding out a calvary unit. I'm going to make them look like My Little Ponies! Hopefully it isn't too difficult. PunkRock bought me the materials I need to make it happen.
 
Obligatory kitten pics!


Cowboy Curtis is sleeping by himself, but basking in the sun are Jambi, Miss Yvonne, Penny & PeeWee.
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Nap time! Cowboy Curtis & Miss Yvonne are at the top hugging it out, with Penny being spooned by Jambi at the bottom of the photo.
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This is PeeWee. He's always wanting to be way up high, and he loves giving head butts & kisses.
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Jambi has a home in NY and I have another friend in OH who wants Penny. A road trip is in my future! First though, these little guys need to get over their sniffles and get fixed.
 
Finally went and got my eyebrows done again - I've been looking like SUCH a Sasquatch! PunkRock and DarkKnight got their hair cuts today as well. MUCH needed. lol They look so stinkin' cute now. :)

Class today went really well. Now I just have to wait til Wednesday and then do it all again. Pfffffffft.

This evening I finally made time to start mods on my Tempest Blazers, which are a cavalry unit in my WarMachine army. I have no idea what the fuck I am doing, so it is super fun. :) I've never used putty or bonding stuff before, so it is all new to me. I took a photo so I can have a record of an unaltered pony and the first step that I finished tonight. It took me a while to get the hang of things. I have five horses, and they are going to look like My Little Ponies when I am done. Or, at least that's the plan! This one is going to be Pinkie Pie.

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Ooooh, the kitties!!

I'm sad... Alt is moving out in a few weeks and is taking our three cats :( And Hubby's saying he won't let me have another one.
 
You could try to pass it off like there have always been 4 cats. Lol Like, what are you talking about, a new cat? Mr Fluffy has been here for about 3 years now! :) This works best if it isn't a kitten though. Lmao
 
OMG Whoever thought that a 9 am Wednesday Astronomy class was a great idea, I kinda dislike them intensely at the moment. Ugh. Seriously, mornings are the worst. I need to charge more for morning start times. Even then though, that prolly wouldn't help my ugh. Sigh.

My daughter and I are going to donate blood today, so I have feeling even more tired to look forward to later. Sigh x 2.

Yesterday was fun. PunkRock and I started watching Stranger Things. We really love it, and got through half the season last night while DarkKnight was away at his choral practice. It isn't the best thing for me to watch at that time of the day because I am terrified of aliens and have reactions to anything that startles. Still, I am enjoying the show and can't wait to see the next half. I think they cast the sheriff really well, and the kid actors are great. It's weird to see Winona Ryder all grown up. For a while, she kinda never aged.

That said, I have no idea when we will have time to watch it. We have stuff planned! PunkRock has to work til super late tonight. I suppose I could commit Netflix adultery and watch the episodes without him, but that's kind of mean. lol

The modding I am doing for my Tempest Blazers is kinda going ok, kinda not. I finished the work I needed to do on Twilight Sparkle - her mane looks amazing! - and I finished the mane and tail work on Fluttershy. However, I won't be able to create her wings until I get the rider glued down. Applejack was giving me fits, so I stopped after a few hours worth of work yesterday. PunkRock made her hat for me, thank goodness. I still have to finish her tail - the poof on the end of her tail just wasn't happening! That leaves Rainbow Dash, who I hope to finish up by Friday. After all the green stuff has been applied, Punk Rock said he will primer them for me, and then I can get to painting. I still have a lot of enthusiasm for this project. :)
 
I am so fucking tired today! PunkRock and I stayed up past 2 am, so our Stranger Things marathon is complete. DarkKnight had already seen it, and he's been feeling kinda sick, so he actually went to bed before 9 pm yesterday. We had a nap together in the afternoon, after he got out of work, so we were able to get our snuggle on anyway. :)

This morning I was up at the asscrack of dawn, motivated and raring to work on all things paperwork related. I did a bunch of letters disputing old addresses and places on employment on both DarkKnight & PunkRock's credit reports, and I got DarkKnight approved for a new credit card yesterday, so today I was looking at his numbers and seeing what we would use it for specifically, to best improve his credit score, moving forward. His credit is pretty good, but the mix of installment and revolving accounts is off a bit, so a new card should help make him more attractive to mortgage lenders. He has a negative tradeline on his report at the moment too - it's a medical debt for less than $100, and it's from when he injured his knee at the grocery store. It should have been covered by the insurance payment from them - it slipped through the cracks somehow. This makes me mad as hell, because it's super recent, so I am sure it is hurting his credit score by a LOT. I am going to contact the hospital and try to resolve it directly with them. This WILL be removed!

So credit stuff was a big part of my morning today. I also worked a bunch on my Astronomy class - I had a message last night from one of student's parents, that she has a friend who has a kid who needs to be in my class. Though I am maxxed out, I decided to add the kiddo, because it won't really be much more work, and it's extra cash. So, this morning I had to send an email with all the pertinent information, and requesting immediate payment, since the official class start date is next week. I also had to send out emails to all parents about the upcoming field trip. Plus, an email about changing the Wednesday class' schedule. 9 am yesterday was fucking brutal for me and the kids. We're just not used to it! After asking, it seems like everyone can shift to an afternoon start time, so I sent out an email confirming a later time.

I also had some texts with some of the guys at the game store that play Cygnar - the same army as me - and what we're doing with the changes in the journeyman league this next couple weeks. I am hoping to finish the green stuff work on my ponies this afternoon/evening. I just have AppleJack's tail and all of Rainbow Dash to complete. Rainbow Dash should be easy - well, the tail and mane, anyway. I also have to do the wings on that one and Fluttershy, but I can't do those until I complete some other steps first.

I've been working on banking info today as well. I finally found time to get in contact with my car insurance/renter's insurance company and got them switched over to auto-withdrawing from the new checking account. Did PunkRock's as well. They both come out at the beginning of the month though, so they might still pull out of the old account. I have money in both, just in case. My rent payment should be all set. I keep calling the life insurance company, but I can never get anyone on the phone. Actually, I hope to do some long-term planning with insurance and retirement later today - since we are buying a house, I have to look at totals and tables and make sure the mortgage would be paid in full in case any one of us passes away. We also haven't updated our medical power of attorney/living wills yet this year, so I need to get new dates on those. My desk is a mess.

Actually, I am making a to-do list right now. That will take a while, but I don't want to miss anything!

Kittens are doing much better now that their meds have been switched to doxy. Some sniffles still, but no sneezing fits any more.
 
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Started watching Stranger Things last night. OMG, I love it! Only watched the first episode so far, but I believe this is going to have to lead to a binge-watching. :D

And the SOUNDTRACK! :cool:
 
Yes! The soundtrack is amazeballs!
 
Just woke up from a nap with DarkKnight. We had such a nice silly space before sleeping - I told him we were going to take a nap, and that was a 3-letter word. He countered that so was the word sex. Then he grabbed me and said so was tit, and nip. He had me laughing! Then our cat, Gus, jumped up onto the bed, and demanded attention. So much laughter! Nap and Gus won. Lol DarkKnight and I have a sleepover later tonight, so I am thinking the other 3-letter words will come up again. :)

I woke up to a new comic from the Oatmeal about happiness. It was interesting, because the views it was espousing are not ones that I subscribe to usually. It intrigued me, for sure. I DO feel happy, most days. I do think it's a good descriptor for how I operate. That said, I clicked through to the Wall Street Journal article it was based off of, and THAT did resonate for me.

http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052702304746604577379891905861390

Here's an excerpt:

In time, to your friends, you will appear to have recovered from your loss. All that really happened, you'll think, is that the hole in the center of your life has narrowed just enough to be concealed by a laugh. And yet, you might feel a pressure for it to be true. You might feel that "enough" time has passed now, that the hole at the center of you should not be there at all.

But holes are interesting things. As it happens, we human beings are able to live just fine with many holes of many sizes and shapes. Pleasure, love, compassion, fulfillment; these things do not leak out of holes of any size. So we can be filled with holes and loss and wide expanses of unhealed geography—and we can also be excited by life and in love and content at the exact same moment.

That section was about recovering from the death of a loved one, but it struck me as a way I was feeling about WarMan earlier today. We have been broken up for a month now. There is a hole there, but it is small enough now to be concealed by a laugh.

Actually, I was talking to DarkKnight earlier & I told him I was feeing better. I still feel sad, and I still feel hurt from time to time, but the exercises I have been doing to overcome my anger are working, or have worked. I don't have as much, or if any, hate for myself anymore.

I was honestly thinking about signing up for a class or play party, to start my search for a Dom. I flipped around on FetLife for a short bit, but ultimately closed the site because I really don't want to do that yet. I think I need some more time, to maybe let more sadness decrease as well. But also, I think I need to focus on some parameters and definitions. I am not going to have another primary, and definitely not someone who says they desperately want a primary but who will ultimately treat me as a zero.

I think I want a regular play partner, who I can have amazing sex with with, but also step away from and keep separate from the rest of my life. I've never had someone in my life that could be described this way, so that will be a challenge, I think. I have all the time in the world to draw up thoughts about what I want, so I have no feelings of rush to find this person. I think the fact that I was feeling some smiles when looking at FetLife was a good thing. However, I don't feel quite ready. I actually feel far from the words quite ready. But it was a small start at being ok with the rest of my life, and being ok with my ravenous sexuality, and being ok with myself, and that was good.
 
Busy, busy, busy! I had so much to write about earlier, but it has all sort of flown out of my head at the moment. I guess I will talk about today and then move backward if I have time. :)

Today I woke up early to color my hair, and took PunkRock to work. I met with an old student of mine who is now going to college for Aerospace and AstroEngineering. He wants to come back and do some teaching assistant stuff for me, and I am really excited about this. I love my Astronomy class, but there is only so much time to blitz through the material. He is going to offer some bonus events and activities with me, to supplement the material. He is going to host a day to do model rockets, and to talk about rocket engine design over time. We had a good couple of hours together at Panera, and I have some plans now laid out to introduce his information. So cool! My former student is really psyched up about it too. He was really effusive about how my class changed his entire future, and how it got him interested in space as a career. That made me feel good - I am inspiring! :)

After our meeting, I went home and picked up DarkKnight and our daughter and we had lunch together at the Dutch Market near where we live. Our daughter has been job hunting, and she applied at a candy shop there, and then later at a restaurant in town. I had a one on one talk with her in the afternoon about her long term planning - I was under the impression she was really eager to move out by February, but she was under the impression that she had til summer. I was relieved that we have more time to launch her, but I had to clue her in that, hey, we're moving! Why this never registered with her - since we talk about it a lot! - I have no idea, but we are on the same page now. She has an interview on Tuesday, and she is busy now applying lots of other places. We laid out a budget, and figured out how long it was going to take her to save the security deposit for a place, as well as money for a car. I think she is more excited and feels good that we have a plan. I know I definitely feel better!

Today I also found time to work on the annual financial goal setting for me, PunkRock and DarkKnight. I am happy to say that so far this year, we did everything we had planned. I did a lot of number crunching for 2017, and I have a lot more to go before our meeting in October where we come together and make sure we are all aligned and in agreement with our plans. This year it will be heavy on credit repair (which is underway already) and our goal of getting a mortgage. There will be changes with our health plans too, that we need to discuss, and with buying a house, means looking very closely at our life insurance. I am thinking that in March we are going to meet with a financial advisor before we start looking seriously at houses, to go over our credit, our savings and our retirement plans. I feel like we are in a good place, but I also know I am not an expert. :)

It was interesting today, because I was talking with PunkRock last night about my career plans for next year. He was under the impression I would be searching for a job in January, but that is not the case. When I was talking to DarkKnight today at lunch, he brought up the same subject, and I explained to him the same thing I did PunkRock. If we are moving in May, I see zero reason to look for a full-time position that I will leave in 5 months then. Especially since I am type A - when I get a job, I give it 100%. Trying to get our daughter launched, working on credit, searching for a house, and then packing our current place up - yikes! My plan right now is to teach one or two sessions of Biology, as I am fairly certain that i have plenty of students who will sign up. Then, after we relocate, I will take a look at how things are going, and make a decision then. If we stay within a bubble of distance from where we are now, there is no reason why I can't continue my business, or even expand it. If we move a distance away, then I can either decide then to launch and try to continue, or close it down and find outside employment in our new location. So, it's a big "we'll see" right now. Both of the guys are cool with that. I did crunch a lot of numbers to make sure that what I would be bringing in would be ok, and we should be absolutely fine. So, that's good. :)

Honestly, I am not super excited about teaching Biology again, but, well, I have several students who haven't taken it yet, and they most likely would. I don't like leaving money on the table, and even less, I feel like I owe it to these kids to offer it. They need to get a good education. I feel good to know that the parents trust me and that the kids enjoy my curriculum.

See, I knew I would run out of time to talk about things. Gah! Oh well. TTFN
 
Yesterday was super great! I wish I had posted last night, but I was tired. I spent the entire day at the game store, and not only did I win the game I got to play - and it was hard fought, which is always awesome - but I also was the recipient of about a million compliments from several people.

I'm not even going to pretend like I had no idea why I was getting compliments. I was looking and feeling amazing yesterday. :) When I feel confident, I think it comes through in my attitude, and I don't know, I just woke up and decided that it was going to be a wonderful day. So it was. :)

A lot of the people I play WarMachine with are younger, like my kids' ages (early to mid 20s). I had two separate conversations about birthdays (my birthday is this month) and the talks were hilarious! In one, two of the guys I was chatting with visibly recoiled when I told them my age. It made me laugh so hard! I was like, dude! It's not THAT old! They were both like, no way are you that old! We thought you were like less than 30! Older than us, but not THAT much. So that felt good. Then I had a conversation with another group of people, and two ladies told me that they thought I was 27! The one chick was like, you can't be almost 40, because you have no wrinkles, you're fashionable and your hair is youthful! She was like, look at you! You're not that old! You're a liar! Oh, I was laughing.

Other guys, at other times, stopped me at different points to give me individual compliments - on my shoes, on my my glittery toenail polish ("sable" covered with "shaken snowglobe"), on my hair, on my bracelets. It was weird. Most times, the game store is not a location where this sort of thing happens. lol Plus, I found myself ENJOYING the compliments. Usually, if someone compliments me, I recoil and get to feeling out-of-sorts. However, I rolled with them this time, and I felt happy. I didn't feel like the people giving them were trying to bamboozle me, or use them as a step to take advantage of me. It actually made me feel even better - my good mood wasn't ruined, it was enhanced. I was like, oh, that's what these are supposed to feel like. So, later, today and last night, I can look back and say YES! I have made significant process on this - compliments have always been an issue for me, and they certainly weren't yesterday.

Oh! and when PunkRock and I left for the evening, he told me my hair was "on point" and that I was looking good. That felt nice too. :) I told him all about the compliments I had and then he gave me several more. Everything was just wonderful.

Just wanted to share. I am still feeling really glowy about yesterday!
 
That's awesome, I'm so glad you had a great day!! I love those days that I feel particularly badass.
 
Very cool! That is such an important change. You impress me again!

Leetah
 
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