Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

Wow, so I went back and re-read what I had written about Greg, back when we were seeing each other in 2014. I had thought we were dating for a month or so, but it was actually only 2 weeks. No red flags, other than damn, still texting me after all that time. Lol I guess I made an impression. Of course, I am still texting him too, so that goes both ways! Definitely there is a marked difference between my posts about him, and my posts about PunkRockAwesomesauce. PunkRock was just an immediate whirlwind that I need to jump into - we were so very compatible and my heart just freaked out over him. Oh geez, just typing that has me all squeeeeee. I had it so bad for PunkRock, and I still do!

Anyway, those 2 weeks with Greg were good. We had gone on 4 dates, I think, and we had sex once. That's not really much to go on, I suppose, but the quality was there. There were zero red flags, he just wasn't PunkRock and instant lightning.
 
Greg= dick too big.

I've never met a too big dick. Envious.
 
It does sound like the Greg thing could be a low-key fwb thing like you're looking for...as for his size, I'd think with some experimentation, you'd be able to find at least a few workable positions. That was my experience with one man I dated...we just had to avoid certain positions.

I'll keep my fingers crossed the basement leak isn't too expensive to repair. Congrats on the new nephew!
 
His dick isn't too long, it's the girth that is the issue. Seriously like 2 Coke cans, 4 fists...I don't know though, I could be misremembering. I am NOT going to ask for a dick pic out of the blue. Lol We are still just chatting.

I told PunkRock this morning about the munch next week, but he didn't have much to say. I am going to wait a day or so and then ask him how he feels about me attending. I am willing to put that off until the next month's gathering, if he needs the time to think about it. He is off to the game store for now.

Good news - the patch job PunkRock did last night in the basement is holding up great. No more water. When he gets home today he is going to get out on the roof and do the outside caulking.

Apparently tomorrow we may all be having a diet cheat day. Um, and we might be going to a thing called Monster Jam. lol Apparently we can get free tickets. That would be me and PunkRock going.

Today DarkKnight and I are home and just hanging out. He has been very snugly and I am kinda outta sorts from all the household stress, and the fact that my mom called again this morning - this time to complain that my brother hasn't picked her up to go see the baby. She just went on and on. I told her that the bus stops right outside her door and stops at the hospital too. She could go and see the baby for $1, roundtrip. She hung up shortly after that because I guess she could tell I wasn't very sympathetic.
 
So, no Monster Jam for me. The show was at 8 pm yesterday, but 4 pm today. We mistakenly thought it was 8 pm both days. Oh, well. I am not a fan girl of monster trucks anyway. Lol But for free, I would totally go if PunkRock wasn't working.

The contractor is due back around 10 am today to lay this fucking basement floor. I am so annoyed that it isn't finished yet. Keep your fingers crossed that all goes well.

I weighed myself this morning and I did not even lose a single ounce since the last time I did so. Bullshit. Still need to lose 9 pounds. I guess I am going to switch back to the more restrictive 20 carbs a day. We decided against a cheat day today anyway, but I didn't think I would have to increase my restrictions! I was thinking I would have lost another pound. So lame. Lately I have been at 20 carbs for lunch and 20 carbs for dinner, with two snacks at 5-6 carbs each. Guess that is too much to keep me losing, but ok for not gaining.

I have been super horny lately, but thankfully PunkRock has uh, risen to the challenge. We've had sex 3 nights in a row. I wish my life was like that always! It's so nice to fall asleep with that post-orgasm bliss.
 
Yay! Progress! The contractor arrived early today and just left. He was by himself, but he knocked out almost all of the work. We went from having a shitty concrete floor with HUGE dips to a plywood subfloor that is nice and even.

Photos

First day of work, it was raining really heavy and we had water intrusion from pinholes along the floor. The contractor marked them for us.

https://www.amazon.com/photos/share/Ck2rW8q0riYH0Sym15zlcUvPWuqUXAqsgCIcUQSPH80

PunkRock came home that evening and put down some quick cement, and then caulked outside to hopefully stop this from happening again. In this photo, you can clearly see where the water was intruding. Check out the original cinderblcok walls, the section we already drylocked, the concrete and the original asbestos-tiles that are adhered to part of the concrete floor! Lots of crazy going on down here! Originally this was all covered by paneling and ugly-ass linoleum. These leaks have been putting water in the basement for years, and it probably went completely unseen. Gross.

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Laying out the subfloor framework. The window to the right is the one that will be removed later to make an egress.

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Subfloor complete in the bedroom area!

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Subfloor complete in the game room area! You can see that the old kitchen space is still needing to be done, but the contractor will be back this weekend to do that.

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Tonight, PunkRock is going to mix up some more concrete and patch every single hole he can find on the walls. There's a lot because the previous owner slapped up paneling, that we have since pulled down. Now we need to make sure everything is sealed up, though it honestly seems like none of them penetrate through to the outside.

Tuesday is PunkRock's day off, so we will install the carpet remnant then, unless my son wants to bring it down tomorrow, when he is here doing his laundry. That should cover the entire bedroom space. We have rubber flooring for the game space and art studio, but that won't be put down until that area is finished by the contractor.
 
I texted a bit with Greg yesterday, and he asked me about how my polycule was doing, so i thought that would be a good time to tell him that I was interested in dating again, in general. I told him that I was 100% looking for someone to do kink with, but that I was also searching for a FWB. We had a good talk. He said that he wanted me to know that he was still attracted to me, and that he always worries when he sends me messages, because he doesn't want me to feel weirded out about that. He said he'd want to hang out with me regardless of whether we were having sex or not, and when I asked him if then, he wouldn't be interested in a sexual relationship, he said, "oh, I totally want to be sexual with you." Lol So that is good, then.

I told him that I wasn't looking for a 3rd husband, and that I don't want an escalator. And that I am taking time now to really figure out everything. He's involved in a theater program until mid August, so we will see, because that timeline kinda fits with what I am looking for.

That was yesterday morning/afternoon. He told me he wanted to talk more later.

I let both DarkKnight and PunkRock know about the conversation, and both guys are ok with me going to the happy hour/munch in the next town over on Wednesday.

Today I have a couple of errands to run - PunkRock wants me to come to his work and pick out a paint color for one of the walls in his bedroom. We have zero plans next year of getting drywall done down there, so we will be living with the exposed cinderblock for a while. He is supposed to be painting the entire exterior wall with drylock tomorrow, and last night we discussed painting the interior wall as well. Drylock is crazy expensive though, and it makes no sense to put it on the interior, so it looks like we will be doing a different color there. Depending on price, maybe I will get enough to cover all the drylock too, but time-wise, I don't think we will be able to get that done in a day. There needs to be two coats of drylock, so that isn't in the plan at the moment.

I also need to take our newest cat, Harry, to the vet for a booster shot this afternoon - against FELV.

I haven't showered yet so I need to get my day moving! My son just came over to do his laundry, and he's out mowing the front lawn at the moment. I was able to get him to bring down the carpet remnant to the basement. It's heavy and huge, so his assistance was needed! He and DarkKnight got it downstairs just fine. :)
 
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Basement update - aren't you excited? lol PunkRock finished all the Quikrete on the outside cinderblock walls, and they should get 2 coats of Drylock today.

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Looks like some sort of crazy Morse code, AmIRite?

I went and looked at paint yesterday but we are still up in the air about what we want to do down here. My favorite idea - at the moment - is to paint the interior wall - which is where the headboard in the bedroom will be up against - a deep, dark blue-based purple. Just solid. The drylock is bright white, so the rest of the basement walls will be bright enough to offset that, I think. Also, I found this photo as an inspiration - I'd like to do this on all the exterior walls, over the drylock. Not green, but sort of a neon type of purple. I think it would counter all that white and tie in the purple accent wall as well.

https://www.amazon.com/photos/share/zMcQuTCRFKPdsZzmKnaWaSVOOTBxSnTfOICAn2v2OT6

We do have some other ideas, so who knows what we'll end up with! Really, I think painting the Drylock will take all of today, becaause the prep work on the walls takes time too.


Graduation gift update! Finally, the red tshirt arrived, and now I can close up the last bin. Isn't the little crab adorable?

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DarkKnight actually fucked up the card last night, so I had to head out and buy more rainbow paper, and today I have to reprint it. Hopefully I will squeeze that in and get this box into the mail this afternoon. Really, that may be my top priority today.

Oh! I also finally was able to get the yellow gifts to upload.

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I really want to get my hair cut as well today - it is SO long! I don't hardly recognize myself anymore. It needs the roots touches up too, though they aren't horrible yet. Maybe when I go to the post office, I will stop and get a haircut then as wel. Then go and buy paint for the basement!
 
My hair is so short! Today will be the first time I am trying to style it but I don't think it will be a problem.

I have a couple of things happening today, number one is that I have a gynecologist appointment, because apparently I haven't had a Pap smear in 4 years. My last one is when I dated M! Geez. I have kept up on regular STD testing, but not my cervical cancer screens. Dumb, I know, but I never even think of it because I have never had one that was troubling. Anyway, that is scheduled for this afternoon. I will talk to her about my diaphragm too - I've also had that for four years, so I am not sure if it needs to be replaced. Still looks ok, but I don't know the life span of those sorts of things.

Tonight I am also attending a happy hour in a nearby town for peeps on FetLife. I reached out to the woman organizing it, so I will know someone there! I don't mind going to an event where I know no one - to me, that is sort of an adventure - but I needed to know if there was someone I had to ask for, if there was a private room, or what. Lol I am all set on the logistics now. I haven't been to a munch in, well, 4 years, so I am interested in the scene. The local club I went to a few times closed and I would like to know where everyone is at - does everyone seriously just drive to Baltimore? This isn't a swinging event, or anything like that. I will not be having a hookup tonight, in fact I don't plan to even drink anything. It's just to meet people and network a bit to see if I can find a community that I can start being a part of with my kink. At least, that's my goal!

I started watching A Handmaid's Tale last night. I have never seen the movie or read the book, so I found it quite interesting. Greg offered to let me borrow the book but I am going to watch the series through, before that.
 
So, gyno appointment. I got my pap done, and I asked the doctor to give me a follow up test for both yeast and BV. The last two, I was 100% clear, and the Pap results will be ready in a couple of weeks. I didn't think I had an issue, but since the BV was positive at my last std screeening, I wanted a clear result so I could be really sure. :) She said my diaphragm should still be ok to use but when it hits 5 years old, I should get a new one. She said she honestly has never had a patient who used that form of birth control, but she recommended that I continue to check it prior to each use - run it under a faucet to check for holes. I feel ok with this plan - I love my diaphragm, but it honestly only gets used when I start seeing new partners. It has been in a cabinet since for almost 2 years! I really liked this doctor, and I felt very comfortable. Apparently beginning next summer, I will be getting a mammogram every year with her. I'm turning 40 in another month! Seems surreal.

Last night I arrived at the happy hour a little early - I figured I could eat something and then scope out the place. I wasn't the only one with that idea, and two of the planners were there already, as well as a couple, and two dudes too. What to say? I met a lot of people, and all of them were nice. So notables - I was shangheid for a short while by a younger guy - very intense. He was a D&D player, a gamer. He seemed flabbergasted to meet a chick who was into the same sort of thing. He kinda glommed on to me and it took me a while to shake him. I was not at all attracted to him. There was another dude, older, who immediately struck me as kind of smarmy. He friended me today on Fet - and yeah, he's married and cheating, looking for something "discrete." Ugh.

I met one guy that I talked to quite a bit - I was attracted to him, but he and his girlfriend are looking for a unicorn. Which, of course, is not me. She friended me this morning though. Actually, I think she is going to be a good contact for me. She knows a lot of people in the lifestyle, and might be able to recommend - or vet - a kink partner, when I find one.

Overall, it was a good time, but it really reminded me of why I fucking hate dating. I suppose it's too much to hope that a couple of guys will just appear on my doorstep. Sigh.

Both DarkKnight and PunkRock were interested to hear about my night out, and both seemed ok. I made sure to check in with both of them, and discuss their thoughts. So far, so good.
 
I really can't win here. Decided to buy tickets to go see The DarkTower tonight with both my menfolk: $42. Then I find out:

The kittens need litter and food - yep, that's $40.

The central air unit has again frozen up. That happened like, 2 or so months ago? So apparently it needs another shot of coolant, because we can't afford to replace the entire unit right now. So that will be like $150.

I need to go grocery shopping for the week, so $200, easy.

Finish the basement floor this weekend - $500.

This is me choking. FM finances, I am done. :(
 
Hi

When you say Froze up... The be motor froze up.,... Or actual "Freezing in the condenser"? ... If motor broke down.. That sucks. If it's just iced over.... Just turn on the heat for a bit and Viola..
 
It was actually frozen. It does that when it gets low on coolant - there's a leak. It actually cost me $305 to top it off this time. Better last til Fall. Holy hell. We had a brief discussion today about expediting the replacement of the entire unit, and the repair tech recommended March. Sigh.

So, Dark Tower tonight. Holy hell, what a steaming pile of shit. The director has forgotten the face of his father. I was so terribly disappointed. Don't waste your money. Damn.

Edited to add that my implant popped out tonight. Just all sorts of wonderful going on!
 
I have had a pretty painful Back every morning, for the last week. Ugh. Aches like a mofo. Pretty sure it's the arthritis in my right shoulder blade. DarkKnight beat the fuck out of it this morning in the bathroom, and oh my that felt amazing. He has the absolute best hands when it comes to the deep tissue massage I need to relax my muscles when my shoulder starts causing problems! I would marry this man based on his hands alone. Lol

Today I am going to get my mind off of all the impending doom around here and get some stuff done. The fridge needs cleaned out, and I need to make a dinner list for the week, followed by a grocery list. The cats are all set, and I don't need any toiletries or paper products - just food! In a related subject - I hope I lose some weight this week! I am just wanting a pound a week at this point!

I need to make a spreadsheet of things we need to do for the house - big and small. Budgeting too. All the lawyer paperwork, and the long term planning for our polycule. Gah! It's a little overwhelming but I think we really need a state of the union meeting before September. There is just so much going on. Or there is a lot NOT going on that should be, because I am distracted with other things and the guys don't pay attention because they think I have my shit together.
 
Well, I got all the shopping done. I placed an order with Amazon Fresh and then made a trip to Sam's Club for some things I could score cheaper there by buying in bulk. I need to clean the fridge before the online order arrives tomorrow morning, so after I write this entry, the kitchen will be calling my name!

PunkRock is working til 9 pm and DarkKnight is off at his play. I am home alone since my youngest went to a different theater production with her best friend. Well, I am alone as I can be with 10 cats in the house. Lol

I am wearing shorts today which has me feeling weird as hell. I got another free Irma in the mail today, from a LuLaRoe group I'm in (it's a short sleeve shirt that is longer in the back) but it doesn't match a thing I own! I guess I could wear it with a jean skirt, but I wasn't feeling it, so shorts is what I ended up with today! Weird. I wear skirts and dresses almost exclusively, so a deviation from that is well, strange. Lol I guess I can post a picture. The shirt is so not my style but I have to say it is super soft!

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I am not a flower wearing person, usually!

Oh! I got a free bracelet in the mail this afternoon. I joined a style group and two separate people contacted me to compliment all of my bracelets, and to offer me one! The first chick had this 3D printed bracelet and never wore it herself, and she wanted to send it to me! I think it is super cool.

https://www.amazon.com/photos/share/s1eDSKIauaOBDmZkb5CjJO6o6jprR6DIkYgTdQAUP4R

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The other person is making me a beaded bracelet to match a specific dress I own. I have no idea why strangers want to gift me bracelets, but I will definitely take them. Because I am obsessed. Lol Seriously though, I think it was super sweet.

I had another good text conversation with Greg today, at lunch. He is coming to a nearby town for a Make A Wish event that he MCs at every year, and he wants to see me afterward. I am happy about it. It won't be til closer to the middle of the month, and I am not 100% if it will happen, because my sister called me from NY today and she wants to come stay with me that same weekend. However, she is coming down mid week and may be gone by the date time? I dunno. I need to call her back while I am cleaning out the fridge!
 
Thanks. :)

I'm going to have a nervous breakdown, I swear. DarkKnight and I did the last bit of grocery shopping needed and then returned home to find our central air unit again frozen over. The dude was JUST here. I don't even know what to do at this point. DarkKnight says he will take a look online, and that he has some ideas? I don't care. It just needs to work. We just spent $300. Ugh. I do NOT have $5,000 to replace this system - I don't even have a credit card with that much room. Nor do I want to apply for a payment plan on it. That would just be irresponsible, financially.

I came down to the basement, hoping to block out that bullshit going on, and PunkRock is working on painting the drylock on the walls. He keeps getting distracted with other things. I'm like, just fucking get it done! Gah! Seeing his ADD in action is so frustrating to me sometimes. Everything is on hold until the walls are painted - we need to get the carpet remnant down ASAP, so we can empty out my classroom! I realize it isn't the most fun job, but damn. I think he hates me right at this moment. Thankfully, my daughter is home from work today, and she is coming down in a few minutes and they'll both be working on it.

I am currently making a list of everything we still need to do on the house, and timelines for that on a spreadsheet. Good news is that looking back at the old list, from when we first purchased it, SO MUCH has been completed. I was able to delete entire columns of work. That's a positive thing. Unfortunately, we've still got things on the list that need to be addressed, and we need to move some of them up a priority level.

Some of it is piddly shit, like the paint touchups on the hallway ceiling. Like, why can't we get this done?! lol But then we have moderate things like the chimney crown is cracked, so PunkRock needs to get the ladder out and and go apply Quikkrete and sealant. We have the supplies, it just hasn't been done. Then we have major bullshit, like the egress window installation, that can't be done by us, and we just need money to throw at it.

Yay! Home ownership!

Writing about this is actually calming me down significantly. To be fair, that's what this journal has always been - a pressure release valve. It works, mofos.
 
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