Drummerboy74
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Hey everyone!
I posted my first post on here about a month and a half ago about this situation, but wanted to get some opinions on where this is headed. My hubby and I (we are both men) are about to celebrate our 15-year anniversary together in February. I am 39, and hubby is 37. We met in February of 1999, and have literally been together since the day we met. We practically moved in together about two months after we met.
Over the past 15 years, we’ve had quite a few threesomes, but always together (and yes, always safe). We have never “played” on our own. It’s an agreement we have, and I know for a fact that neither of us have broken that agreement. Well, about three months ago, we decided to meet up with a cute 23-year old guy. Ted had contacted me on a gay dating site. He is not out, had only been with one guy before us, and in general is new to the gay lifestyle.
From the moment we met Ted, we all felt an instant connection. The three of us ‘clicked’ immediately. We are all pretty masculine guys, so I think that had a lot to do with it (aside from the obvious physical attraction). There is a fairly significant age difference, but in all seriousness, you’d never know it. We look younger than we are, and he acts a lot older/more mature than he is. So we meet somewhere in the middle.
To make the story a little shorter, he has spent 5 full weekends at our house over the last few months. He is coming to our place again the weekend after Christmas, and we are headed up to New Hampshire together in mid-January for a weekend in the White Mountains for skiing.
Ted group texts with both of us every day. To put it mildly, I’ve grown quite fond of him. My hubby is a lot more conservative and traditional than I am, but regardless, is pretty fond of Ted, as well. And Ted has deep feelings for us as well, which he is certain is not because we are almost the first guys he’s met. He genuinely, really, likes us both.
What is going on here? This is both unbelievably exciting, and really scary at the same time! I hesitate to put a label on this. I mean, Ted lives about an hour and fifteen minutes from us, and is not moving in with us. We see him about every 3rd weekend, but we talk to him constantly. He’s already told us he has no desire to meet anyone else right now.
Is it best to just see what happens here? I can’t lie and say there aren’t feelings involved, because there most definitely are! He’s even hung out with our closest friends with us, and is well liked by them as well, though they (aside from one) have no idea what is going on.
Help?
I posted my first post on here about a month and a half ago about this situation, but wanted to get some opinions on where this is headed. My hubby and I (we are both men) are about to celebrate our 15-year anniversary together in February. I am 39, and hubby is 37. We met in February of 1999, and have literally been together since the day we met. We practically moved in together about two months after we met.
Over the past 15 years, we’ve had quite a few threesomes, but always together (and yes, always safe). We have never “played” on our own. It’s an agreement we have, and I know for a fact that neither of us have broken that agreement. Well, about three months ago, we decided to meet up with a cute 23-year old guy. Ted had contacted me on a gay dating site. He is not out, had only been with one guy before us, and in general is new to the gay lifestyle.
From the moment we met Ted, we all felt an instant connection. The three of us ‘clicked’ immediately. We are all pretty masculine guys, so I think that had a lot to do with it (aside from the obvious physical attraction). There is a fairly significant age difference, but in all seriousness, you’d never know it. We look younger than we are, and he acts a lot older/more mature than he is. So we meet somewhere in the middle.
To make the story a little shorter, he has spent 5 full weekends at our house over the last few months. He is coming to our place again the weekend after Christmas, and we are headed up to New Hampshire together in mid-January for a weekend in the White Mountains for skiing.
Ted group texts with both of us every day. To put it mildly, I’ve grown quite fond of him. My hubby is a lot more conservative and traditional than I am, but regardless, is pretty fond of Ted, as well. And Ted has deep feelings for us as well, which he is certain is not because we are almost the first guys he’s met. He genuinely, really, likes us both.
What is going on here? This is both unbelievably exciting, and really scary at the same time! I hesitate to put a label on this. I mean, Ted lives about an hour and fifteen minutes from us, and is not moving in with us. We see him about every 3rd weekend, but we talk to him constantly. He’s already told us he has no desire to meet anyone else right now.
Is it best to just see what happens here? I can’t lie and say there aren’t feelings involved, because there most definitely are! He’s even hung out with our closest friends with us, and is well liked by them as well, though they (aside from one) have no idea what is going on.
Help?
