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Iridescent

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Hello there,

I've never been that great at introductions or talking about myself, but I'll give it a shot.

I'm a 31 year old woman who is married to a 32 year old man. I've begun a voyage of self discovery, I think. Since college I've always been curious of what it would be like to be with a member of the same sex. I apologize about my lack of terms and abbreviations, but I have only been researching the poly topic for a few weeks.

I told my husband who returned with "YOLO", so I suppose I have some support looking forward. I do not have interest in other males than my husband (I can only be disappointed in one at a time 'joking':D). He and I have talked about it at great lengths. What polyrelationships are, what is a triad, who are swingers... I'm open I suppose to an open triad (I apologize again if i butchered that). My husband and I, being complete noobs to all of this, came up with rules and what I could have been looking for. I am not all that interested in dating sites, or one night stands. I wouldn't mind someone getting to know us, and perhaps something building from that.

We're very very private people. He works in the government, I'm a stay-at-home mom of 2 beautiful girls. We don't know how far we want to go with this, but maybe that's why I found this site. :)

Its nice to meet you all!
 
Greetings Iridescent,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you are open to a possible relationship with another woman, even if you're not actively pursuing it at this time. That's alright, and you can use the meantime to read and post on Polyamory.com and learn more about what's what with polyamory. You seem to have good technical knowledge, and you and your husband have solid communication with each other which is a good place to start. If you have any questions let us know.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Thank you very much for the welcome. I've come up dry trying to find people locally to speak to. It seems like this half of the country is very very low on people who fall into the polyamory bracket. I've found a wealth of information here as far as I've read.

Maybe I am looking for a possible relationship to add to our marriage. Looking at some posts I have read, some of my thoughts seem to make a bit more sense regarding the normality of it all.
 
There are ways to look for local poly people, but they're ways you have to actively pursue, OKCupid for example. You can also search for local poly groups, sometimes googling helps with that, although it depends on how closest your nearest poly group is. Often you can find poly groups and people via FetLife. And you can frequent comic cons and other "fringe" events, where you're more likely to encounter people with open minds about things like poly. I can post some links here if you're interested, let me know.
 
I have tried, well, scouted OKCupid, however many of the matches didn't 'match' well. With Fetlife, not many people around here. I've looked as far as Boston (about a 10 hour drive) just out of curiosity of whats out there. I would definitely welcome any links to something where I may connect locally :)

This whole experience of just looking has been enlightening. Liberating even. My husband always said (sorry if I offend someone) that 'monogamy was forced by the church' and that its against human nature to be monogamous. I am having issues with shedding what was taught to me (Christian schools), but I am slowly creeping out of my shell lol
 
Yes societal conditioning is hard to get past. Don't try to rush the process, just keep in mind that it's something you want to do.

Here are some links you can try, I don't know how much they'll help but have a look.

And in "meatspace" ...

"As for where to meet poly people, if by some chance you are interested in anything alternative like Renaissance fairs, goth culture, sci-fi conventions, indie music, bdsm, or any small fringe group, you will be more likely to meet people who have at least heard of poly and are accepting of it."
-- SpaceHippieGeek, Polyamorous Percolations
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And even if it's not an "alternative" type group, if there's a club or something in your area that does something you're interested in, you can always join that group and it just gives you a way to get out there and meet people. If you meet someone on a platonic level and get to talking about poly, then they can decide how they feel about it without any "pressure to agree." Then if they do decide poly doesn't bother them too much, and some kind of romantic connection subsequently develops, you'll already have "had the poly conversation" with them.

Just some possibilities.
Regards,
Kevin T.
 
Thank you so much Kevin. I'm exploring!

I have also been creeping pages here. Thank you for pointing me in the right direction!
 
No problem. I wish you the best in your exploration.
 
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