jerdawg
New member
Hi,
I am new to polyamory and in fact that was never the intention, it just kinda happened.
My partner of 3 years with whom I have always been monogomous left a few weeks ago for job training and he still has 2 weeks left. Aterwards he will only be home a couple of days a week from now on. We decided that it was probably best if we had an open relationship so we could keep our physical needs satisfied. The rules were simple, always honest, always open, no jealousy, no betrayals.
After this deal was made he started seeing one of his co-workers. I started seeing a new guy as well. Now our open relationship has turned into both of us having another steady partner. I would say his relationship with his co-worker is definitely more involved than mine is with my new guy, however, we both have made the commitment to our new partners and to each other that we won't be bringing anyone else into our bed any time soon. Hello polyamory.
I don't know if my situation is unique or not, considering my partner and I have not met each other's new partners, although I have texted with his new partner some and he does seem like a really genuinely sweet guy. Since my primary partner will still be away for work on Valentines day, he has to spend it with his new partner, and I will have to do the same.
I have talked with his new partner and we agreed that we should collaborate on Valentines day for them... something to make it extra special, but at the same time be something that is "from" both of us. And that's where the ideas stop... lol. Since I won't be able to physically be there I don't really know what I can do that says "here, this is from both of us, but he's going to give it to you, and spend the day with you." Especially since the best valentine's gifts are usually not material things, but are time spent together, great conversation, and intimacy.
Anyway, I just wanted to say hi. If anyone has any ideas of what I can do I'm all ears lol.
I am new to polyamory and in fact that was never the intention, it just kinda happened.
My partner of 3 years with whom I have always been monogomous left a few weeks ago for job training and he still has 2 weeks left. Aterwards he will only be home a couple of days a week from now on. We decided that it was probably best if we had an open relationship so we could keep our physical needs satisfied. The rules were simple, always honest, always open, no jealousy, no betrayals.
After this deal was made he started seeing one of his co-workers. I started seeing a new guy as well. Now our open relationship has turned into both of us having another steady partner. I would say his relationship with his co-worker is definitely more involved than mine is with my new guy, however, we both have made the commitment to our new partners and to each other that we won't be bringing anyone else into our bed any time soon. Hello polyamory.
I don't know if my situation is unique or not, considering my partner and I have not met each other's new partners, although I have texted with his new partner some and he does seem like a really genuinely sweet guy. Since my primary partner will still be away for work on Valentines day, he has to spend it with his new partner, and I will have to do the same.
I have talked with his new partner and we agreed that we should collaborate on Valentines day for them... something to make it extra special, but at the same time be something that is "from" both of us. And that's where the ideas stop... lol. Since I won't be able to physically be there I don't really know what I can do that says "here, this is from both of us, but he's going to give it to you, and spend the day with you." Especially since the best valentine's gifts are usually not material things, but are time spent together, great conversation, and intimacy.
Anyway, I just wanted to say hi. If anyone has any ideas of what I can do I'm all ears lol.
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