I have searched and searched for a place to be able to talk and relate to other people of "similar nature and intentions", and I'm hoping to have found it here. I'm 25 and live in Indiana, and my fiancé and I have been involved in various aspects of "the lifestyle" for about 3 years now.
My fiancé and I started out our non-monogamous adventures with swinging. I had never been able to admit to myself, or anyone, that I had an interest in experimenting with women, and he was the one that brought it out of me. We have (still) never full swapped with another couple, and I have decided that I don't really have an interest in that, because, outside of my relationship with him, I really don't have an interest in any other men anyway. We decided about a year ago, since things had been going so great with swinging, to start wading in the poly pool. Our rules (I actually prefer "guidelines") are pretty unconventional, at least from what I've heard from other people and the few friends that I've decided to tell about this experience. I don't play or have relationships with other men. My fiancé, however, is free to pursue romantic and (mostly) sexual relationships with other women. I know, sounds strange. Like I said before, I have no interest in other men aside from him. I get everything I need from him, and he encourages me to explore the bisexual side of myself that I kept hidden for so long. Obviously it is MUCH easier for him to find extracurricular activities. The bisexual/lesbian pool is pretty shallow here in Northwest Indiana, and most of the women I've talked to are flakes. Not to say they all are, but at least they are here.
I'm hoping that this forum can be an outlet for me. Somewhere that I can talk about our experiences and hear about some from others in a completely nonjudgmental environment. Telling vanilla friends about these sorts of things just ends up badly, in my personal experience. We are the outcasts of those that know about us. Either that or it is a funny joke to talk about when they're drunk. For us, it is a lifestyle choice, and one that we are completely and fully accepting and happy with.
I hope to hear from some supporters and look forward to sharing!
-Mandy
My fiancé and I started out our non-monogamous adventures with swinging. I had never been able to admit to myself, or anyone, that I had an interest in experimenting with women, and he was the one that brought it out of me. We have (still) never full swapped with another couple, and I have decided that I don't really have an interest in that, because, outside of my relationship with him, I really don't have an interest in any other men anyway. We decided about a year ago, since things had been going so great with swinging, to start wading in the poly pool. Our rules (I actually prefer "guidelines") are pretty unconventional, at least from what I've heard from other people and the few friends that I've decided to tell about this experience. I don't play or have relationships with other men. My fiancé, however, is free to pursue romantic and (mostly) sexual relationships with other women. I know, sounds strange. Like I said before, I have no interest in other men aside from him. I get everything I need from him, and he encourages me to explore the bisexual side of myself that I kept hidden for so long. Obviously it is MUCH easier for him to find extracurricular activities. The bisexual/lesbian pool is pretty shallow here in Northwest Indiana, and most of the women I've talked to are flakes. Not to say they all are, but at least they are here.
I'm hoping that this forum can be an outlet for me. Somewhere that I can talk about our experiences and hear about some from others in a completely nonjudgmental environment. Telling vanilla friends about these sorts of things just ends up badly, in my personal experience. We are the outcasts of those that know about us. Either that or it is a funny joke to talk about when they're drunk. For us, it is a lifestyle choice, and one that we are completely and fully accepting and happy with.
I hope to hear from some supporters and look forward to sharing!
-Mandy
