He agrees, officially Poly now

[BrianneGoddess]

After another intense email exchange with Wonder Woman, I am feeling I have more closure of sorts... Or at least, more understanding of her decision.

And so it triggered a discussion with Rock about me specifically starting to look for an opportunity to explore my attraction to women.

He was unsure and he listed many concerns and worries. I explained that the reason for constant communication between us is to ensure I'm able to better manage myself and our relationship expectations.

He expressed understanding my reasons for needing to do this at the end of the talk and even listed a few preferences he would like - as ways to enable him to better cope with this. They all seem fairly reasonable to me at this juncture.

I guess I just wanted to share the official news....

I'm hoping that starting this will also enable me to cement my friendship with Wonder Woman (who expresses support of my finding someone else) and help me reconcile the feelings I still have for her in order to deal with them in finality.

And ask if anyone has suggestions for setting up things with Rock and I to start off on the right foot in terms of communication...

I'm excited. And a bit nervous. and excited. Mostly excited. I think. Haha

 

[kdt26417]

Hi BrianneGoddess,
Congrats on your new polyness.

Communication is quite important, but don't burn yourself out on quantity, work on the quality. In the early stages I suggest maybe one "relationship talk" per week, not to last more than an hour each. In the later stages you could do relationship talks less often, once a month or even less if things are going smoothly enough.

Along with these measured doses of communication, develop your outside relationships slowly, so that Rock has a chance to express concerns if needed. This gives you a chance to figure things out as well, and get advice on this forum.

Those are my initial thoughts anyway.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.