Life is decent. Money is a weird situation because I've got $7,000 waiting in PayPal, but my account has been limited due to issues that aren't my fault. Ugh. It's been fun to have my costuming business back up and running. Kind of funny that I'm making more money as a costumer then I am as a lawyer. My internal debate rages on as to whether I should go full force with the costuming or work on the law/collections business as well. The house needs fixing and landscaping, but I just never want to do it. I hate landscaping.
Audrey and I are doing well. Until recently, you wouldn't know that either of us are poly. We go out on dates, go to the grocery store, go shopping, do basically everything together. She sleeps over at my house every night, though she says she needs to spend time at her house more. I always encourage it, but she never actually does it. Part of the problem is that her stuff is so strewn around my bedroom that it would take a lot of effort for her to gather her things and move back. Truth be told, I have become extremely messy as a result of lots of reasons, one of which being Audrey's influence. #1 she's kind of messy. #2 I'd rather spend time with her instead of cleaning my house #3 the dogs we have together take an inordinate amount of time to care for (not that I'm complaining. I love them. They are family) That said, it's my responsibility to clean my house so I can't really lay it at her doorstep.
Mainly our time is spent down in the parlour, watching tv - or cooking, which we enjoy - or outside with the dogs and the garden that Audrey has started (and is doing QUITE well tending. We cuddle up, alternate between adult conversations and our DD/lg language, though we aren't really in a formal power exchange relationship anymore. I'm more than fine with that. Anyone who sees us out
As I've relayed before, Audrey is almost always on her phone. She spends time on Tumblr and on lots of phone app dating sites like Tinder, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, etc. Recently she started talking to a new guy that I'll call Amos. Amos is new to town and has no friends. He's from SanFran so he's fairly worldly, though he's not affluent by any means. The other night she went on a "date" with him while I was at a friend's going away party. Audrey would have gone to the party, but the friend throwing it kept changing the time so she couldn't keep rescheduling her date and be polite. Not her fault.
Their date went several hours, including time at the local coffee shop and walking around the neighborhood for hours at night. She told me he was very, very funny, but she didn't know how long he would be around and if so, in what capacity - love, friend, or otherwise. I'm glad she had the time out and has a new person to get to know. Just sticking around the house can get boring and we've also discussed expanding our circle of friends as well. She told him that she was poly and that she has a steady "companion" (the word we continue to use instead of bf/gf/so). He said almost everyone in SanFran is poly, so he's used to it.
Audrey and Amos have continued to text, again which is fine. It hasn't resulted in any deficiencies in my needs. He tried to be funny, I suppose, when he texted her "Hey! If you've got plans on Monday, cancel them! You're going with me to see Grand Budapest Hotel (a movie)." She remarked that it was a little commanding for someone she'd only met the other day. I didn't use that as a chance to bite down on the guy. I simply agreed, gently, with what she said. The next day, after I'd thought about how he could have been cancelling MY plans with her (not that I had them), I told her I did find it a bit more commanding than I originally thought. She said she just thought he was trying to be funny, but it's something to think about.
They're going out to do something at lunch today, and while I am apparently writing a blog post about it, I'm more than cool with it. In the past, I'd be dwelling on all the possibilities of what such a date could mean - especially the bad parts. But I know that our minds can run away with us and a friend date doesn't have to mean anything. Even if it did, it wouldn't mean that her love for me would be diminished. Yes, it doesn't take a mentalist to realize that even though he didn't kiss her on the first date, he's going to get more comfortable and more ambitious on a next date. That said, his actions will also be in response to what Audrey is putting out there. If she's not acting romantic, he may not try anything. Again, this is all conjecture - the kind that really gets me nowhere. After typing it out, it all seems kind of silly.
Still, it's a little weird since she hasn't had a new potential in a long while. She thinks that he and I would get along well and invited me to be friends with him. After thinking about it a little, I thought why not. If the occasion arises, I'll need to remind her that I'll be balancing not cramping her style with not diminishing my own needs and habits to be affectionate with her. I don't want to be overbearing, be uber territorial, and come off prickly to the guy, but I'm also not going to pervert the nature of our existing relationship either. Part of me doesn't want to be the guy to smooth over awkward pauses in their "get to know you" period, so I'm conflicted. Not painfully so, just in theory.
Really, I'm putting the cart before the horse. There has to be a little nagging something in my brain for me to bring all this up, but it's nowhere near how it used to be. She loves me, yeah yeah yeah...With a love like that...You know I should be glad