kitteninthemitten
New member
Hello! I'm kitten in the mitten, long time reader, first time posting and would like to introduce myself. I've been reading this site off and on for years and have found it to be a great resource for those times when I need another perspective on a variety of poly-related questions.
I'm 34, have been married to my life-partner for 7 years in February. I discovered polyamory at the tender age of 18 while a freshman in college. My bf at the time and i read a ton of books and must've spent hundreds of hours in discussion about all of the ins and outs of a nonmonogamous lifestyle before making the plunge. That first foray failed spectacularly, but through my mid-20s I experienced varying levels of successful poly relationships.
When my now-husband (I'll call him Lew) and I started dating, I informed him of my non monogamous leanings, concepts that he was already familiar with. As we got more serious, though, we naturally slid into a mono mode that served us very well for the first few years of our partnership. We were happy, or so we thought. .
A few years back, I started an affair that was not within the bounds of Lew's and my marriage. A year after that, I had another one. When everything came to light, all hell broke loose, because of course it did. Lew moved out, we were separated for 6 months and lived apart for 18 months. Those 6 months apart were simultaneously the worst nightmare in my life and exactly what I needed on an individual level as I was forced to confront a lot of ugly truths about myself. I made a commitment to changing those parts.
Fast-forwarding for brevity's sake, Lew and I have been back together for going on two years. We opened the marriage up this past August, and since then it's been quite the journey together. I finally registered here so that I could participate in a lively smart community of poly folk. Thank you for reading my intro and I look forward to getting to know some of you!
I'm 34, have been married to my life-partner for 7 years in February. I discovered polyamory at the tender age of 18 while a freshman in college. My bf at the time and i read a ton of books and must've spent hundreds of hours in discussion about all of the ins and outs of a nonmonogamous lifestyle before making the plunge. That first foray failed spectacularly, but through my mid-20s I experienced varying levels of successful poly relationships.
When my now-husband (I'll call him Lew) and I started dating, I informed him of my non monogamous leanings, concepts that he was already familiar with. As we got more serious, though, we naturally slid into a mono mode that served us very well for the first few years of our partnership. We were happy, or so we thought. .
A few years back, I started an affair that was not within the bounds of Lew's and my marriage. A year after that, I had another one. When everything came to light, all hell broke loose, because of course it did. Lew moved out, we were separated for 6 months and lived apart for 18 months. Those 6 months apart were simultaneously the worst nightmare in my life and exactly what I needed on an individual level as I was forced to confront a lot of ugly truths about myself. I made a commitment to changing those parts.
Fast-forwarding for brevity's sake, Lew and I have been back together for going on two years. We opened the marriage up this past August, and since then it's been quite the journey together. I finally registered here so that I could participate in a lively smart community of poly folk. Thank you for reading my intro and I look forward to getting to know some of you!
