Hello, and a bit about me

[keoryst]

Hi. I am female, currently single, just looking for understanding friends to help me process and learn. I'll try not to be too much of a downer in my intro, but several years back I found myself in a truly unexpected, but gorgeous and loving, relationship with two male twins.Unfortunately for both me and his remaining twin, we lost one of them very young to an aggressive cancer. I am finding it really difficult to move on, in part because no one in a typical grief forum is open to the polyamorous nature of our relationship. The remaining twin and I are very, very close--he is a dear and special part of me--but we are no longer involved. Let me know if this forum has room for my story, because I truly need some understanding ears to talk to. Thanks either way.

Keoryst
PS--Let me quickly clarify before misunderstandings occur. There was, of course, nothing sexual between the two twins, other than a mutual attraction to me. Sigh. This does get complicated to explain sometimes. Argh

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings keoryst,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

As far as I am concerned, you are good to share your story here in detail, and share your feelings in detail if you want. If you mostly want a safe space where you can talk about your situation without getting criticized, try Life stories and blogs. If you want advice for your situation, try Poly Relationships Corner. Either way, you are on a poly forum and that makes it okay to talk about your situation.

I'm very sorry that you lost one of your partners.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[GalaGirl]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Grieving a partner is rough.

I'm also sorry to hear that over time it led to breaking up with your other partner. That is another kind of loss even if you remain close friends post dating.

You can certainly share whatever it is you want to share. I'm sorry grief forums you have visited so far were not helpful. Do you think grief counseling may help?

Galagirl

 

[vinsanity0]

Hi. I am female, currently single, just looking for understanding friends to help me process and learn. I'll try not to be too much of a downer in my intro, but several years back I found myself in a truly unexpected, but gorgeous and loving, relationship with two male twins.Unfortunately for both me and his remaining twin, we lost one of them very young to an aggressive cancer. I am finding it really difficult to move on, in part because no one in a typical grief forum is open to the polyamorous nature of our relationship. The remaining twin and I are very, very close--he is a dear and special part of me--but we are no longer involved. Let me know if this forum has room for my story, because I truly need some understanding ears to talk to. Thanks either way.

Keoryst
PS--Let me quickly clarify before misunderstandings occur. There was, of course, nothing sexual between the two twins, other than a mutual attraction to me. Sigh. This does get complicated to explain sometimes. Argh

Sorry for your loss. I lost my wife last year. I know people can be very insensitive when it comes to the poly part. People have said all kinds of stupid things to me.

I don't think there was really any need to clarify the situation. Sorry it didn't work out with the remaining twin as well. Double the loss, double what you are dealing with.