Hello everyone! I am new to the group and have been lurking for about 2 weeks. Really interesting conversations and ideas flying around! My husband and I have been in an open marriage/poly for about 3 years, although it's been fairly lopsided. While my husband has a girlfriend of over a year, I thought I was not really interested in pursuing poly for myself. I tried to find a boyfriend at first but had several rather hurtful experiences, so I decided that poly just wasn't for me. However, in recent weeks I've decided that I, too, would enjoy having a girlfriend (I have been bi for a very long time, but mostly expressed when we were with other couples). We live in the Philly area and finding someone is more challenging than I thought it would be! But I'm enjoying the search for a girlfriend for myself. 
I will admit that my husband of 36 years having a girlfriend that he cares about has been a real challenge for me, but reading this page and other poly blogs has really helped me to understand what this is all about. She is very nice and good for him, and I like her. The 3 of us regularly do things together (not all the time) and sometimes she and I go out for dinner. This is her first experience being involved with a couple (she and I are just friends -- nothing more) and his first long-term relationship, so this is new for all of us and we are working through the issues. But that being said, it has been a huge learning experience for all of us and I love and appreciate the ride.
Anyway, just wanted to say 'hello' and introduce myself. And thank you to all for the fascinating topics and conversations! I will likely jump in from time to time but even though I consider myself/us poly for 3 years, I still feel pretty new at it so I will defer offering advice to the more knowledgeable here.
I will admit that my husband of 36 years having a girlfriend that he cares about has been a real challenge for me, but reading this page and other poly blogs has really helped me to understand what this is all about. She is very nice and good for him, and I like her. The 3 of us regularly do things together (not all the time) and sometimes she and I go out for dinner. This is her first experience being involved with a couple (she and I are just friends -- nothing more) and his first long-term relationship, so this is new for all of us and we are working through the issues. But that being said, it has been a huge learning experience for all of us and I love and appreciate the ride.
Anyway, just wanted to say 'hello' and introduce myself. And thank you to all for the fascinating topics and conversations! I will likely jump in from time to time but even though I consider myself/us poly for 3 years, I still feel pretty new at it so I will defer offering advice to the more knowledgeable here.
