Well we'll try to give you the advice that you need. I'm very sorry to hear about the divorce, that is never an easy thing to go through. So, you are still in the relationship with the other man who is married/poly? You were a primary to him, but now you're a secondary to him?
It sounds like you're going through some difficult changes right now.
Yes, I am in a relationship with the other man (who is married to a monogamous woman). I am very close to both of them and we spend a lot of time together with each other's families.
I am a little worried because I came on here earlier today looking for advice on our relationship. Something occurred today. He had mentioned to me several months ago that he wrote a blog online. After reading certain threads today, I got curious and asked him if I could read his blog. I could have searched for it since I know all the online names he uses. However, out of honesty, I thought it was best to ask his permission. He granted it, was afraid I might get upset but informed me that it was written in this forum.
I went on to read some of it tonight, and I couldn't finish it. I didn't even come close. It did upset me.
About me, I am having a hard time with feeling lonely. I had been in poly relationships off and on for 10 years in my 17 years of marriage. I became much more active the last 4 years?..maybe. Anyways, I desire a lot of attention. He gets really busy with work, family, spouse and life. I know he tries to give me as much as he can.
So I am going from having a husband and LDR boyfriend. The long distance is not that long, 2-3 hours away. I dont like needing someone so much, because I have always been so independent.
We do see each other weekends and message each other throughout the day. It still doesn't seem like enough.