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BlueGray

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Hello,
I have a long story but I’ll try and make it short. I’m not new to the idea or practice of poly. I have had long relationships that ended happily and I am still friends with many from my early days of trying to figure out what worked for me. I’m 42 years old now and I have never had a monogamous relationship until M (legal husband), me and S (closed v) ended our four year long relationship. It was ugly, mean and destructive and left us all devastated and feeling like we had lost a part of our very souls. It has taken us all (children were involved) the last three years to heal.

We are just now starting to dip our toes back into the poly world and have as of yet to define where our future is headed. For now I am involved with another person MD (not to be confused with a doctor lol) and M is talking with another person (female). M, MD and I are all involved in the D/s lifestyle and that is part of what connects us on so many different levels.

I’m currently working in the field of social services and a full-time graduate student.
Until next time
BG
 
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Greetings BlueGray,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you and M have always stayed together, even during the breakup with S? Hope I'm not prying. It sounds like you have a lot going on these days, with work and school and whatnot. I'm glad you could join Polyamory.com and hope you enjoy your stay.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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kdt26417 said:
Greetings BlueGray,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you and M have always stayed together, even during the breakup with S? Hope I'm not prying. It sounds like you have a lot going on these days, with work and school and whatnot. I'm glad you could join Polyamory.com and hope you enjoy your stay.

Sincerely,
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Hi Kevin,
No you are not prying and yes we stayed together. We almost did not but in the end we fought to hard to be together to let a drug addiction drag all of us down. In the end we lost her but it was for the best, especially considering where she ended up in her life.
 
Hey there, I hope you stick around. I saw in another thread what you do for a living. I think you would add a lot to the discussions.
 
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"No you are not prying and yes we stayed together."
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Oh, good.

Re:
"In the end we lost her but it was for the best, especially considering where she ended up in her life."
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That's sad that she did so poorly.
 
vinsanity0 said:
Hey there, I hope you stick around. I saw in another thread what you do for a living. I think you would add a lot to the discussions.
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Thanks.

I like to say I'm well rounded, educated and have some life experience that can help others which is just a pretty way to say, my family puts the "fun" in dysfunction :p

On a more serious note my legal husband and I came from very different ideas and attitudes about poly and the D/s lifestyle. So different that it almost broke us apart. We made the choice to work and work very hard at healing our relationship, being more honest with each other even when it was hard or hurt and move forward to the life we want and can have not the fantasy that we think it will/would be.
 
BlueGray said:
Thanks.

I like to say I'm well rounded, educated and have some life experience that can help others which is just a pretty way to say, my family puts the "fun" in dysfunction :p

On a more serious note my legal husband and I came from very different ideas and attitudes about poly and the D/s lifestyle. So different that it almost broke us apart. We made the choice to work and work very hard at healing our relationship, being more honest with each other even when it was hard or hurt and move forward to the life we want and can have not the fantasy that we think it will/would be.
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The woman I call my wife and I have VERY different views about D/s. It almost destroyed us as well. Now I get that with others. We are still in the healing process with some issues, but the hard work is worth it.
 
Hi Bluegray, welcome.

We encourage people to use nicknames when referring to their partners, rather than initials. It is so much easier for readers to remember who is who with actual names and not single letters. Your story sounds interesting and it would be helpful if you'd do that! Thanks.
 
Magdlyn said:
Hi Bluegray, welcome.

We encourage people to use nicknames when referring to their partners, rather than initials. It is so much easier for readers to remember who is who with actual names and not single letters. Your story sounds interesting and it would be helpful if you'd do that! Thanks.
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oh my nicknames.

M - Fox
MD - Mister
S - PsychoB
 
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