Hello from Wesley, a newbie

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"Side note: How to explain to friends and family when they see Kim and Greg out dating together?"
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Keep it simple, something like, "Yes I know about it, the three of us have a consenting poly relationship." Keep in mind, some people will be unaccepting no matter how well you explain it, so again keep it simple, "I'm sorry if this upsets you, all I can say is it works for us." This is your life and you have a right to live it.

Some people will not believe that you are *truly* consenting. They will think that Kim is using you and that you are enabling it. All you can say is, "Thanks for your concern, I will consider it." The point is, don't let yourself be drawn into a long, drawn-out argument, or long-winded explanations. Keep your responses trimmed down to the essentials. It is understandable if someone is concerned about your well-being, but this is something that you have to figure out on your own. Reading and posting on this forum is part of how you figure it out on your own, so I encourage you to keep doing that. As far as I can tell, your consent is joyful and genuine, but ultimately it's up to you to decide if that's true. Take all things into consideration, and draw new conclusions as you go along.
 
New Relationship Energy for all three of us

Hello

Yes I realize Kim, Greg, and I are newbies in this poly lifestyle but the new relationship energy, NRE, is definitely present between Kim & Greg but has flowed synergistically to Kim and myself.

Greg is younger than Kim and I but now with this new poly relationship Kim and I feel younger, more alive an energetic!!

I mentioned to Kim right after getting married we should have sought out a man for a poly relationship as opposed to waiting to now. Kim correctly point out in my 20’s I would not had the maturity to feel secure enough to date another man, she is probably correct.

I look back at my apprehension about entering this lifestyle and laugh at myself with the mindset we should have started years ago.

Early on Sunday Kim dated Greg then later that day dated me.....with all three of us being happy and content

I love new relationship energy !!!
 
Sounds like things are going really well for the three of you. That is good to hear. :)
 
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