Hello! Looking for support while my partner seems to be flourishing in this new paradigm

[Dreamsofexpansion]

Hey all,

I'm a 36 yo old cis het male in the Midwest. I've been practicing ENM with my partner of about 2.5 years for about 6 months now. She started dating someone immediately and their relationship has escalated very quickly. The transition has been hard for me, as ENM is a more of a lifestyle than an orientation for me. I've just started dating a little and hope to see more of the exciting part of ENM. I'm looking for support in how to process through this first year that I hear is so hard. I love my partner deeply and want to make it work, but also realize that there's a possibility that ENM, or her structure of ENM, isn't for me. Looking forward to learning more from you all!

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Dreamsofexpansion,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Yeah, the saying goes, first year forming, second year storming, third year norming. Not that that's a universal time frame, but to be figurative you are still in your second year. I see that you have started another thread in Poly Relationships Corner, I will have a look at it and see if I can add something useful. I'm glad you're here.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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