Hello, Where do i go from here

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Novus909

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66 yr old male. Once married, once divorced. Currently sharing a home with a sweet loving woman.

I collided with "The Ethical Slut" and was captivated by the philosophy. Scared to death of the work that would be involved, but so intrigued by the possibilities . Can this be something I could still make happen at my age?

I am looking for constructive dialogue, as to the possibility of creating a successful polyamory relationship at my age.

Thanks in advance for your help
 
Greetings Novus909,
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I think that age is not a factor in determining whether you can "do poly;" we have several very active members here who are "older." I myself am 50 if that helps.

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Hi, Novus909, and welcome!

You've got 5 years on me (and I hope that in 5 years I won't feel that I've outgrown polyamory). You know, they used to write books and articles convincing people our age that our sexual life needn't be over already... or even for some years to come.

There are plenty of people our age who cheat on their partners. As the title of your book suggests, polyamory is an ethical stance (and I also hope that in 5 years I won't feel that I've outgrown ethics).

Since it is an ehical stance, you have to make sure that your "sweet loving woman" is onboard with this. n.b. This does not mean that she has to find another lover (if you surf this forum, you'll find plenty of examples of "monos" happily sharing their "poly" partners with others: not guaranteed trouble-free or painless... but then neither is a poly-poly-poly relationship, a mono-mono one... or Life in general).

What it does mean is that you can't have another lover and demand that your partner reserve all her love for yourself. That would be unethical and anti-poly.

Looking forward to more entries in the log of your "scary" journey into the unknown...
 
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understand fully

that is what catches my attention, the ethics that are involved. I would not pursue this if "open" was not part of the equation. The insecurities, and the jealousies that I am sure will raise their hands as we try to move in this direction. So want to do this, and do it right . I feel some real growth potential as it moves forward.
This old dog might learn a few new tricks also.
 
"What are you doin'?"

"I'm changin'!"

... to quote "Paint Your Wagon." :)
 
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