Hello

[Echris30]

Hi I'm not sure how often I'm going to be on here but I thought it would be a good place to at least talk about things on occasion since I can't really talk with family or friends anytime soon.

My wonderful wife of 8 years has expressed an interest in polygamy, she might want to try something a little more casual at first but definitely, the end goal is to add a long-term third person to our relationship. I always considered myself monogamous but once we talked about it I was pretty ok with the idea (and might have even uncovered that I like the idea of cuckolding but just watching not the humiliation parts I've read about). She's pretty serious in pursuing but also has a lot more free time than I do as she doesn't currently work (and hasn't for awhile) and we don't currently have kids. I'm open to the idea of exploring poly myself with another woman but not actively looking so not on any dating sites and not necessarily looking to find someone here, just people who are going through something at least somewhat similar and I can talk to about it if needed. That's it for now but I am pretty nerdy so any threads of that sort you'll probably see me pop up in.

 

[Al99]

Hi Echris30- and welcome to the Forum! We will look forward to hearing more of your story as it unfolds. We do have a number of experienced poly folks here on the forum who are generally helpful and friendly - so please do not hesitate to post any specific questions and thoughts that you may have.

Just a note on the customary terminology. The term in your post, "polygamy", technically means having multiple spouses - although, in actual use, it usually refers to a man having multiple wives (which is more accurately called "polygyny", and a wife with multiple husbands is correctly called "polyandry"). However, most poly folks seldom use any of those terms - and instead use the term "polyamory" (the name of this forum, of course, is polyamory.com).

While the best possible definition for polyamory has been the subject of endless debate for the last 20+ years (including on this forum) - the general agreement is that polyamory involves multiple loving/sexual partners and the knowledge and consent of all involved. One such definition, from the long running poly blog and podcast site Polyweekly.com, is "having multiple long-term, loving relationships with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved".

Again, welcome and best of luck on your journey! Al

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Echris30,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I believe you'll find that there are lots of people here who will be glad to help out in any way that they can; just let us know. It sounds like you're pretty new to this; there is a lot to learn and the various threads here have a wealth of information for you. Explore freely, and don't hesitate to post any questions you may have. I'm glad you could join us.

Sincerely,
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Welcome aboard!

 

[Echris30]

Just a note on the customary terminology. The term in your post, "polygamy", technically means having multiple spouses - although, in actual use, it usually refers to a man having multiple wives (which is more accurately called "polygyny", and a wife with multiple husbands is correctly called "polyandry"). However, most poly folks seldom use any of those terms - and instead use the term "polyamory" (the name of this forum, of course, is polyamory.com).

While the best possible definition for polyamory has been the subject of endless debate for the last 20+ years (including on this forum) - the general agreement is that polyamory involves multiple loving/sexual partners and the knowledge and consent of all involved. One such definition, from the long running poly blog and podcast site Polyweekly.com, is "having multiple long-term, loving relationships with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved".

Again, welcome and best of luck on your journey! Al

Whoops yes I know the difference just apparently wasn't paying attention wife definitely wants to try POLYAMORY, not polygamy lol.

 

[Echris30]

Additionally, after talking to the wife some more I did also set up a profile on OKC but honestly not expecting much out of it, like I said I don't have a ton of time or energy to look for other people. If it happens it happens.